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cohabitation

11 replies

jaynegall1966 · 04/02/2019 14:13

Im separated from my husband and he's been seeing his mistress for four years now and she has moved a wardrobe full of clothes in and toiletries. I know she stays over occasionally. Can I assume they are cohabiting?

OP posts:
Boysandbuses · 04/02/2019 14:21

Staying over and living together are 2 different things.

DianaT1969 · 04/02/2019 16:01

What's the significance if they are living together or she is staying over?
Any reason why you aren't divorced yet? I wonder if your reference to her as 'his mistress' instead of his girlfriend means that you haven't moved on? 4 years is a long time to be stuck. I would hope that the initial pain/shock/betrayal dissipates after a couple of years?

MrsTerryPratcett · 04/02/2019 16:02

How do you know?

Spam88 · 04/02/2019 16:06

OP doesn't say they've been separated for 4 years.

Original poster
jaynegall1966 · 04/02/2019 17:51

A mistress is a relatively long term female lover and companion who is not married to her partner, especially when her partner is still married. I would just like to know if anyone can tell me what constitutes as cohabiting.

OP posts:
Boysandbuses · 04/02/2019 18:02

The definition is living together.

They don't live together?

Is this to form the divorce? Are you wanting proof of adultery?

MumsyJ · 04/02/2019 18:04

Thanks for the definition OP, but why are you even bothered if separated? Isn't he bound to move on?

" I would just like to know if anyone can tell me what constitutes as cohabiting" = Google is your best friend!

goldengummybear · 04/02/2019 18:07

For benefits purposes, it means sharing household bills. He might pay Electric while she might pay Water.

DianaT1969 · 04/02/2019 22:33

Hmmm none the wiser.

troubleswillbeoutofsight · 05/02/2019 08:19

In the past cohabitation for benefit purposes was classed as someone spending the night more than three times a week

Dirtybadger · 05/02/2019 08:23

Even for benefits purposes someone can say they aren't cohabiting despite staying 5 nights a week. They just need to show they live somewhere else. Usually by showing they pay bills at their own address and don't at the "new" address, etc.

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