It's like living with a child.

[Lu234]

I'm not going to NC as my previous posts will give more of a back story.

First year of our relationship was good. More than good.
As soon as we started living together there have been a number of emotional abuse situations.
No DC.

For the past 3-4 months everything has been great.
Last Tuesday I had to take my DGF to a hospital appointment. When I arrived I had numerous calls and messages from DP asking me to ring him.
At the time, there was no signal for calling in the waiting room so I messaged to explain.
Eventually I managed to log onto the wifi and call him through WhatsApp.
"What's up?"
Him: "i need you to fill in a form"
"I'll do it when I'm home. I've only got my phone and 20 minutes, I'd rather get home and sit at the computer and do it properly"
*he cuts me off.

Not only is it awkward sitting in a waiting room full of people knowing that he's just cut me off, but I go home to the silent treatment.
This episode of silent treatment has now lasted 6 days.

I usually help him at work on my days off but this weekend I needed to do some work that would help my career. He threw a paddy (silently). He could have asked one of his parents to help but obviously didn't.

He refused to come food shopping with me (I didn't buy him anything on principle).

He's done sweet F A this weekend in terms of house work... apart from walk the dog. I've had cooking, cleaning, washing etc and a job that has taken up a huge chunk of my weekend time.

I don't know, I just feel like I'm living with a child who I can no longer support anymore. I pay the vast majority of the bills, he earns next to nothing, I have to help him to and from work for him to be able to bring pennies home.
Usually he's pretty good at the house work I'll give him that but he has to be asked for him to actually do something.

I am becoming extremely paranoid that he's tracking me/hacking my phone. There have been incidents of him getting access to my social media in the past and on a couple of occasions he's used phrases that I've read on MN and things I've said in private messages on social media. I just want to clarify I have nothing to hide.

I feel like I get no down time. On my days off I'm still up at 6am to help him. I'm so bloody tired of working my arse off and to not be appreciated for keeping a roof over our heads.

I just needed a vent :(

What do you mean by stocks; do you mean his stocks and shares?.

This is what its like living with an abusive person, not a child. This person targeted you and deliberately so. You get nothing out of this relationship.

For fuck’s sake.

If you’ve had numerous threads before then all I can conclude is that you want to wallow in MN sympathy without actually doing anything about it.

I expect that sounds harsh to you, and it probably is. But really. Wake up and smell the coffee. Nobody else can change this. We can sympathise as much as you like and it doesn’t change a thing. It’s going to be up to you to do this.

Either get on with it or stop wasting people’s time.

Jemnyholzersghost

Thank you for your input.
I hope you're never in a situation where you have nowhere to turn but strangers on the web.

I have no family. I have no friends. Im in a dead end job earning peanuts, relying on my DP to help me live daily life due to disability and my mental health issues are not just something I can just push through.

OP you mentioned your grandfather - is he in a position to help in any way, even financially? Does he have friends who would be able to lend a hand to you?

How did you manage before you met your DP?

What kind of disability do you have?

@Grace212 - very elderly :/
@Smellyrose - I got ill after meeting DP. I then currently lived with stepparent who has now downsized and isnt financially able to help.

@rainflowerstar I dont want to give the medical name as if he finds this thread he could easily work it out.
I struggle with mobility and fatigue. My mental health also stops me from interacting with people.

Sorry I don’t know anything about your disability but you seem to be able to live independently as you’re working and doing all the cooking and chores?
I would bin him. He sounds horrible.

Can you sleep on your step parent's sofa until you've saved enough for a new deposit somewhere else?

This man is very much part of your problems, he is not any sort of a solution. Walk away while you're not tied to him through marriage or children.

Could you stay with your grandfather and pay him rent. End your tenancy with your abuser. You need to get away from him. You are so young and have your life ahead of you.

get rid of him. No excuses. THis is not helping your MH, but get some assistance to go through this with a mate.

You could pack his bags and get him off the lease agreement and locks changed.

or tell him, pack your bags, give me the keys and FO whilst having moral support there so he can't play all weirdo ( not talking to you for 6 days over your failure to fill in a form due to being unable to at the time is madness). You are with a manipulative freak- who doesn't pay his way.

Woman- be kind to yourself. THis man doesn't serve you. He's wearing you down. You deserve more.

You work and look after the house, as well as taking him to work - surely it would be better for your fatigue if you were just looking after yourself, ie cleaning for one person and not having to run around after your partner.

I think you’d find your mental health would improve massively without him. What does he actually help you with? You seem to work, drive him about, do all the chores? He wants you to feel isolated and dependent on him, but what does he actually do for you?

Didn't you not post something like this before? There was a woman recently posting about a very similar situation.

Usually he's pretty good at the house work I'll give him that but he has to be asked for him to actually do something.

Just for the record, he is either pretty good at housework or he has to be asked to get things done. Which is it?