I asked him out - is he interested?

[Wern]

I started talking online to a man via a dating site 5 months ago and we haven't met yet (don't ask )
It's getting to the point that if we don't meet now, we never will so the other day I texted him and asked if he fancied meeting for a coffee this week and he replied with "Thank you xx"

WTF is that?

I called him out on his vagueness, he's now ignoring me but not before he got on his high horse and asked me how was his response vague, and that I only read what I want to read dependent on my mood.

Seriously? Interested or not interested?

Should I text him and see if he texts me or just walk away either way?

We are both 40 lol.

when you know, you know

But clearly, you don't know. You are putting far too much time, energy, and emotion into something that isn't real. That's five months of fannying about that could have been so much better spent with someone who was interested in you, not the games.

Hi Wern he’s leaving you alone now but he may be back. He’s stringing you along and clearly doesn’t want a proper relationship. You need to block him totally.
Go on the dating bit of mumsnet for support. They recommend about meeting after two or three weeks to see if you like each other. He’s wasting YOU time.
Do you go out and socialise with friends or any groups. I find when my life is wider I don’t tend to over invest with anyone who is wasting MY time.
Have you looked at any MEET UP groups local to you.

If you have to start a thread on MN to ask, it usually means he isn't.

I have a two year old so getting out and about and meeting new people, especially single men about my age (40) isn't as easy as it could be. Dating these days in general is tough enough. As for friends, I don't have the largest network in the world so the next best thing for me is OLD, because at the end of the day, I do want to share my life with someone and grow old with them.

Whatever happens from here on with him though, I will never see these last 5 months as time wasted - he made me want to address something that has taken me 30 years to overcome. Funny how things work out sometimes!

There's only one thing for it.

Cake for breakfast

I think there is reasonable timing in OLD, and also the number of attempts that you make. I had made plans three times with a guy who seemed compatible. First we cancelled, then he was sick once, then I was sick. All ok, but I said this is the last attempt. If life can't make a first meeting happen, it won't make a second, third, etc. So go to the next.

Also, the question you asked was a yes/no. He answered with something else and when you asked for a clarification he still didn't respond. He is an idiot (and obviously doesn't want to meet). Wanting to meet: says yes.

You've sent several 'goodbye' clips and texts? Why?

Send ONE and mean it. No wonder he's vascillating, he's loving the attention that you're giving him and getting plenty of exercise from the pull me, push you routine that you have going on.

No, he's not interested. You can do better. Don't send any more texts, block and delete - more effective than anything you could say.

Nah he's married or something.

OP are you still on the apps? You get 100's of guys like this with online dating, please don't invest so much into him. All you're doing by chasing him/ going back when he pulls his 'shocked' routine is massaging his ego.
A man who thinks you're worth the effort will make the effort, and if he doesn't then why on earth would you want to be with him?
He'll be doing the same with loads of women and getting a kick out of the ones who keep coming back. Block him and find someone who isn't all talk and no action

5 months isn't a dating site, it's a penfriends site.