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Friends taking sides after marriage breakdown

36 replies

Woofwoofbaa · 03/02/2019 22:26

He left me for a coworker

Mutual couple friends

The guys were probably closer but I was still friends with the wives

One of them doesn’t want to be friends any more
Ouch

OP posts:
AnneLovesGilbert · 04/02/2019 09:47

Bloody hell Shatner that must have hurt like hell. Have you ever asked her why? That's brutal.

ShatnersWig · 04/02/2019 09:55

No. It's eight years ago now and I don't actually want or need to know.

KellyC19 · 04/02/2019 09:56

Shatnef - did they ever get together?

I think her priority was always herself.

KellyC19 · 04/02/2019 09:57

Well you do know - it's because she's what's technically known as a c*nt.

ShatnersWig · 04/02/2019 09:58

@KellyC19 Neither of them were lesbian, so no (I'm a man)

KellyC19 · 04/02/2019 11:06

Shatnef - ahh

Had she become very good friends with your ex partner in the interim (while her friendship with you had lessened)?

Did she think ex partner had noone to spend Christmas with, while you did?

Still shitty though.

KellyC19 · 04/02/2019 11:07

*Shatner

KellyC19 · 04/02/2019 11:10

Also when you say she invited ex, 'not me' - it's fair to say people might draw conclusions about a bloke spending Christmas with her and her family that they wouldn't with a female friend/acquaintance.

ShatnersWig · 04/02/2019 11:33

@Kelly No, that's the really bizarre bit. She'd never spent ANY time separately with my ex, either when we were together or the nine months between us splitting and Xmas. My ex had a brother who was single and who we always invited to come and stay with us every Xmas (I have no siblings) so there was absolutely no reason she would have spent Xmas alone and friend had already invited another single male friend over for Xmas.

mayathebeealldaylong · 04/02/2019 12:03

I think it's doctors Foster on Netflix that's reminds me of what your going through.
Everyone new and where part of the affair he had, even their close friends covered up for him.
It's shocking how people can say in thing and do the complete opposite.
Sorry OP, but things are never as perfect as they may seem so try not to think he's so happy and everything for him is better.

mogratpineapple · 04/02/2019 14:21

It's like pruning out the dead wood. You're surprised at how much dead wood there is in your life - but soon cut out giving space for new growth.

Probably no comfort but everyone goes through this and it can be very hurtful (as you know) and quite shocking to see who sides with whom. I looked through my facebook list recently and am pretty sure I know who would drop me and who wouldn't.

I wish you speedily through this xx

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