Jealous boyfriend?

[Ribenita]

Help I have an extremely jealous boyfriend. We have been together for two years.

Any guy that I know as friends who will add me on fb, or send me a message, or follow my instagram account , he will be like "who is this" "what do they want". I've had a few guys 'show interest' but have let them know that I've got a boyfriend by slipping him into conversation.

I got a message from a guy randomly that I work with, who I barely know asking to go for a drink sometime. I'll obviously say no, I can't do sorry, or let's go with xyzzy colleague too to make it clear.

He saw the message and gave a huge diatribe about what this guy wants, who is he, how do I know him blah di blah.

I think it stems from my boyfriend thinking that I am too attractive for him. Which I don't think I am, or I wouldn't be with him!

This is a way of controlling you, it's not acceptable and it's abusive. You really don't need to live like this.

How did he see the message? Does he check your phone? I hope not.

You know this isn't a healthy relationship OP right ?

You do realise that this isn't a sign that he loves you so much but that he is a controlling bastard that sees you as a possession?

Dump that fucker.

I just feel that whatever I say, is my fault. He's not accusing me of anything directly but somehow always spins it on my fault, and he has a problem with my wording of things.

I just feel that whatever I say, is my fault. He's not accusing me of anything directly but somehow always spins it on my fault, and he has a problem with my wording of things.

Ah, pet, that really is no way to live.

You've only been together a short time. He's not making you happy. he won't change. I'd finish it and move on. I think you'll be much happier.

You might find it helpful to read Why does he do that? by Lundy Bancroft as well - www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B000Q9J0RO/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1&tag=mumsnetforum-21