Attracted to same sex?

[Fl0w3r]

Sorry guys I had made a Freudian slip on my last post.

I've always been a little "confused" and maybe the fact that I'm posting this should be a big sign to me...

But I wondered if anyone could tell me how you "knew". Like actually knew rather than just crushes.

You know the same way you know you are attracted to the opposite sex?
And sexuality is fluid - so you don’t need to torture yourself with definitions.
If you are attracted to a person - whatever gender - just got for it.

I don't know what your last post was?

If you fancy someone you fancy them. It's not a different process due to genitals.

You all make it sound so simple

What specifically do you find difficult about it?
Do you have some religious or cultural barriers to being with an opposite sex? Is that why you find it difficult to admit it to yourself?

Or - have you been heterosexual for a long time and now that you feel curiosity towards another sex you don’t known how/where to approach them?

Don't ever underestimate the term 'gut feeling'. If you feel it, you know it and if you know, you know. These day and age who cares, if you're attracted to same sex, why not? Make that move OP!🙂

If you find men attractive and you find women attractive then you're most likely bisexual.

It's possible (indeed perhaps most common) to be bisexual and hetero romantic - that is, you have living relationships with the opposite sex, but find men and women equally attractive sexually.

Or you could be heterosexual and bi-romantic - you're attracted to men sexually, but emotionally to both sexes.

Most of us are on a sliding scale, towards whichever end. I personally like to sleep with women

I've always found girls attractive, but in a view from a far type way. Most times when single I have wondered about seeking something more out but I guess views of my parents and what I have been brought up with have stopped that.

All of my exes have suggested I am because of the way I view and describe women but it wasn't until the last guy said to me "do you really want to be in a long term relationship without ever knowing or trying" and that's when it hit me! No I really don't!!!

I'd say I find the female body more attractive than a mans but then I had always put that down to how they can be soft and curvey and stuff like as if to attract someone.... whereas with a man I would say I would have to get to know him before being able to find him attractive if that makes sense.

I'm in my 30s and having a bit of finding myself and being honest with myself and I just wonder, all this time have I just convinced myself I want a heterosexual relationship because it's the "expectation"

I can relate and have felt like you as well about the female body...
I do know I am attracted to men and for relationships i prefer to be with men... But physically - I enjoy contact with women too...

If you are anywhere near London, or other big cities - check out Killing Kittens. They have nice events - and sometimes women-only events for women just like you, who are curious and want to explore

Thank you @jsku

Unfortunately no where near London. When I popped tinder on about a month ago I selected both male and female but I felt guilty about the women because despite wanting to explore, I've never kissed a woman and wouldn't want them to think I was using them to explore if they were looking for something serious!

I guess I probably just need to stop being a wuss and be ok with "dating" as sometimes things just don't work out.

Gosh I do over think everything don't I

Following with interest here OP; I’m nowhere near London but would love to attend the same. Skirtclub looks like it could be a good one??

When I was a teenager I was attracted to girls. I couldn’t imagine myself in a relationship with one as I prefered the ‘traditional image’

I had a LTR with a guy and I loved him but I didn’t get the hype about sex. Genuinely thought I was broken/missing the point. It wasn’t unpleasant but I didn’t think it was all that great.

When I started dating again after we split up, I spent a year going through pretty much all of POF. Eventually realised the only person I fancied was my pole dancing instructor. So I decided to be brave and switch and try to date girls. Met up with s few and found I was connecting with them a lot better, then had a 3 year relationship with one. That’s ended and I did go on a couple of dates with men after but it just wasn’t happening. So I’m back to dating girls and I’ve accepted this is who I am.

So my point is, I loved that boyfriend I had, I really did, but now I can’t imsgine being with a guy. Give it a go. You don’t need to tell women you meet that you haven’t had a relationship with one before.