I'm 42 and have been separated for just over a year. I was devastated by my marriage ending but knew it was the right thing. We have two young dc together and I have a 17 year old. My exdh had issues around sex and intimacy and it totally decimated my self confidence. I went a bit mad on tinder for a bit when we split (unwisely) but was careful to keep things just casual as I had no desire whatsoever for another relationship.
When I was 19 I had a brief romance with a guy I met on holiday. We had a great time together and stayed in touch for the rest of the summer, until it fizzled out naturally about 6 months later and we lost touch.
After I had split from my ex, in about March last year, I found my old flame on fb and sent him a message. He was pleased to hear from me and he was also separated from his wife and has a preteen son. Since then we have messaged each other pretty much most days and have seen each other 5 times, for a couple of days each time. I drive and it takes me about 2.5 hours to get to him. He doesn't drive and has caught the coach to get to me, which takes about 5 hours.
We talk on the phone every few weeks and have a great laugh and get on really well when we do. We haven't talked about feelings, he is quite reserved and I didn't intend on it being more then good fun to start with so was fairly cautious and kept things light.
The last couple of times we have seen each other I have really found it hard to get a grip afterwards and am starting to get feelings for him. I don't know what to do, I'm scared about fucking it up, we get on and have great sex and I don't even think I want anything more than we have. I don't want to put labels on things but I am finding it difficult not knowing what he is thinking or how he feels. I don't think he is interested in anyone else and neither am I but other than that I don't know if we are FWB, dating or what. I haven't a clue how to proceed now. What should I do wise women of MN?