Is this a ok present to give my friend?

[ashleypeter]

My friend is having a baby in three months and I'm putting together a little hamper for the baby and her.
I've put some outfits in in the different sizes and bibs,socks,hats,sleepsuits and nappies.
For her I've got her some chocolates and a spa day voucher .it has 12 months expiry.
I'm worried that the spa voucher might not be appropriate.
Should I swap the voucher for something more personal?
I'm not sure what tho?

A voucher for beauty therapist/masseuse who comes to your home might be more likely to get used.

Lovely thought, OP.

Does she like spas? Does she have a partner or family or friend to babysit? No pony in giving her a spa voucher if she had no interest in using it, or will have childcare problems. I’d have hated it.

She's not into beauty at all.
I'm quite happy to keep the voucher for myself and get her something else if need be.
She does have babysitters yes ..and I thought having 12 months there's no rush to use it.

She loves spas
We normally go a few times a year

It sounds lovely, and you sound like a lovely friend, but I wouldn't have used a spa voucher within 12 months for lots of reasons.

I love the idea of someone to come to her, like a masseuse, or a pedicure.

Yeah I might look into maybe a pedicure or manicure etc
Obviously not for straight away but when she's feeling up to it.

Or maybe just a gift voucher for her fav shop then there's no pressure.
I just want something useful that's all

Is she intending to breastfeed her baby? If so it might be difficult for her to get away to the spa.

Not sure about breast feeding
She didn't with her other but not sure.
Good point ..didn't even think of that

If she loves spas and it can be used over a whole year, I'm sure there will be some time when she can take a morning or afternoon at least to go. Milk can be expressed if she's still breastfeeding. You sound like a lovely thoughtful person.

Sounds like a lovely gift . I would be really touched if someone did this for me .

What a lovely friend you are! I'd say pampering treats for home - someone gave me some gorgeous lavender bath stuff that was intended to be healing/relaxing (it was!), posh body lotion, nice tea, chocolates etc - lovely!

That sounds lovely. I’d give her the voucher sooner rather than later and she can go before giving birth and enjoy a pregnancy massage or similar. If she can’t go before she gives birth, say to her that you’ll use it if she can go before the expiry date and buy her another one for the following year.

I would have loved a spa voucher a million times more than someone coming to my house but DS was ff and I was happy to leave him with family from a fairly young age.

With 12 months validity I'm sure she'll appreciate having a day of feeling like herself again. Very thoughtful and kind gift in my opinion.

It sounds like a lovely gift and I don’t see any reason why she wouldn’t be able to use a spa voucher that has a 12 month expiry date on it. I’m on my third breastfed baby and I’d defo be up for a spa day soon (currently got a nearly 5 month old).

How about a promise note instead of the voucher. To say that the two of you will do something of her choosing as soon as she feels up to it.
That way their are no time constraints and you are not railroading a decision for her.

Sounds a nice gift - I wouldn't exchange the voucher for manicure/pedicure if she's not into beauty stuff. She likes spas, hopefully within a year she'll have chance to use it.