Why d some guys cut back texting/responding to texts after having sex?

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Is it as simple as they got what they wanted and now can't be arsed?

sex isn't necessarily an emotional thing for guys

sex isn't necessarily an emotional thing for women either. It's just sex. To presume something else is just your own imagination.

Some people don't want 'talk'.

Maybe you just don't tick their sexual boxes?

I'm a bit like that. If a man doesn't go down on me within the first couple of times of having sex I'm out of there

Even if I really like them, I know if they don't do that eventually I'll get annoyed with them so what's the point?

Maybe im Odd McOdd but I like to DTD very quickly. So I dont waste time.

Sex is very important to me but whats more important is connection. I find sex gets in the way, so I find it a good gauge on the person and how they respond.

If this had happened to me I would give him a taste of his own medicine. Cut back on communication yourself.
As soon as his balls re-fill he'll come running back. Just make him work for it.
Like others have said, as soon as the man blows, he has little interest. Never come across too needy or even that interested. From experience, men like the chase. I made my current partner wait 10 dates... probably around 2 months until we had sex and 7 years down the line I still make him work for it
Never make yourself too easy - they love a challenge.

It’s about power. Idiot men see women as holding the power before sex, after sex they have more power and like to wield it by withholding contact as a punishment for women withholding sex.

@Agnes is correct. Usually when males withhold sex in this way its because they are manipulating the woman.

Yeah because no women have ever used sex to manipulate men.

Do any of them NOT do this?

The answer is you have met the wrong man. Better to find out sooner rather than later. A sensible person will go for more of what they like. Sex is something shared not given.

I agree with BiglyBadgers.

Every compliment and every kind gesture is designed to get you compliant and horizontal, nothing more, nothing less.

As long as you don't believe a word they say you can enjoy the ride, as it were.

If you want wooing and commitment then try a long hands off courtship.

Try it and see!

In my OLD days I used to see a few men at a time. I also didn’t have sex until we became exclusive. That way I found I was never waiting for someone to call me back or microanalysing every communication. It also meant that I ‘dated’ men for longer than my friends who were also online. Before I met my DH I was seeing three men who I’d ‘dated’ for 3 months, 5 months and over a year. Once I became exclusive with my future DH I stopped seeing everyone apart from the guy I’d known for a year who eventually dated a good friend.

This worked for me as I’m not too fussed about sex without an emotional bond but I know it isn’t right for everyone. But it did mean that I navigated OLD without trauma. Also that horrible book ‘the rules’ was doing the rounds and I wanted to avoid that sort of game playing at any cost.

Attention Readytorewind - lf someone is not going to go down on me the first bedtime, then that bedtime is not going to happen. Attitude to this is apropriately discussed some time beforehand. Conversation can be awkward but it saves messing about.

Thrill of the chase for me especially if I am not that into them.