Introduced him to my parents and I’m a bitch for breaking up with him?

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I was dating someone for about 3-4 months. We met each other’s parents as they lived on the same street as him (as in my parents, his parents and him lived on said street). Obviously this didn’t mean we had to meet each other’s parents but it ended up just happening as my dad saw my car on his drive and asked about it. Another time I was visiting my family and he drove by to pick me up (I don’t live in that area).

Anyway. A few weeks later a few things happened that made me want to slow things down. He was funny with me if I wasn’t free every weekend for example. I ended it.

Hes since said various things to me, the main on being that I led him on by introducing him to my family and that he would never have introduced me to his if he hadn’t met mine first. He’s blocked now, but I’ve been thinking about it and wondering if i acted horribly here? I ended it because I didn’t feel like he was right and I started not to fancy him. I never arranged an ‘introduction’ to my family, it was a casual thing that just happened and evolved into a drink at the pub at the end of their road! However given his nastiness when I ended it, I am wondering if I was wrong here and should have managed things differently?!

I don’t want to be with him. Just wondering reallt if I was the nasty person he told me I was for doing this.

I thought this was going to be about your parents getting all sad because you'd dumped a boyfriend you'd introduced them to (which my parents have done with my sisters, because they themselves got together aged 20 and had never had any previous relationships, and they genuinely struggle to understand that ending things when you're not happy is normal!), but this is pretty odd. Well done you, is all I can say. Bullet successfully dodged.

Thank goodness you trusted your gut and left, he sounds like a nutter! Tell him at the time you introduced him to your parents you hadn't realised what a strange bloke he was, and you're embarrassed that you did! (Not really, better to just block and move on - if he does get through to you just say "there's no point in discussing this any further", because there isn't!).