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Pictures of Ex girlfriend

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MirkleMe · 02/02/2019 10:54

My bf was scrolling through his photos and I saw he still has photos of his ex girlfriend on his phone.

Is that weird? Or normal?

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Singlenotsingle · 02/02/2019 10:58

Depends how long you've been together. It can take a while for memories to fade, but eventually he won't need them any more. It doesn't mean she's still important to him.

showmeshoyu · 02/02/2019 11:02

eventually he won't need them any more

You don't need a photograph, nor should memories be erased just because time has passed. I don't understand this attitude of not being allowed to have photos of your past beyond a certain timeframe. Why erase your past?

SaltedIceCream · 02/02/2019 11:08

How long ago was his last relationship

over50andfab · 02/02/2019 11:15

A guy I went out with for a few months - up to going out with me he only had his ex gf of 10 yrs pics on his fb featured pics. Visible to everyone. Now he has pics of 4 of us on there. Just as well I binned the arrogant twat!

Bikinginsummer · 02/02/2019 11:16

It totally depends on the situation.
When I met my boyfriend he had pics on his phone simply because he hadn't realised /consciously got rid of them. A lot of it was because he was having so much fun in his new relationship (with me ) that he'd forgotten about them.
I implicitly trusted him but also knew I was with a genuine guy who loved me so it didn't bother me at all.
If I'd been insecure or was worried he wasn't into me I'd be upset.
He deleted them on his own admission.
It all depends whether you are comfortable and trust he's into you?

ladybee28 · 02/02/2019 11:17

I think it's pretty normal - she was a big part of his life.

Doesn't make it comfortable for you to see, though.

Crustaceans · 02/02/2019 11:20

My BF’s google photos is full of pictures going back many, many years, which includes photos of his exes. I can’t think of any circumstance in which it would be reasonable for me to be annoyed by this. It’s his life and memories.

I have to accept that he was 40 when I met him and lived a lot of life without me in it. The same goes for me. He’s got no right to expect me to not have had any past (or any record of it). What matters is that we want to be with each other now and in the future.

If you doubt that’s the case with your BF, OP, then the problem is with your relationship not some old photos.

Bikinginsummer · 02/02/2019 12:14

Also I have pics with exs on Facebook etc
That's the problem with social media and phones today.... It leaves a trail!
None of pics with exs mean anything. It's just the past.
Unless you want a virgin whose never had a relationship you're gonna have to deal with it.
If you're insecure with him it might not have anything to do with the photos

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