So torn

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I'm stuck between 2 men - I like them both, a lot, and don't know what to do

Number 1 - I've known him for 5 years, originally we were fwb until middle of 2017 when we got together. He had a hectic lifestyle and lost his license and then went to prison for driving whilst disqualified. He also started taking ketamine. We split up in September. He says since then he's had an epiphany. He didn't go out, has not taken any drugs and has been completely miserable without me. He realises that his life was a mess and that he doesn't want that life anymore. He wants to be with me and be happy. We've been out for a couple of meals as friends the last few weeks

Number 2 - he's in the same profession as me. Get on great and started dating in November. He has bipolar and stopped his meds and had a bit of a time and decided he didn't want to see me, then he did. We decided to be just friends but now he says he realises he loves me and wants to be a couple etc

What do I do? Neither knows about the other and I have feelings for both

Option:YOU

Time for yourself.

Then an option 3.

You don't need to be with anyone.

If only you could combine the two somehow, and have an ex-con druggie with a mental health disorder he isn’t responsible about....

What a catch HE would be right?!

Neither....
The first one might be clean now because he wants to win you back but there's an extremely high possibility that as soon as things get tough he'll start taking drugs. Also wouldn't want to be with someone who lost their licence (for drink or drug driving?).My ex drove drunk and I was frantic with worry all the time - he wouldn't stop, said it wasn't a problem, hadn't drunk much and could not understand why I was worried about it - he'd have lost his job for a start if he couldn't drive. He hasn't been caught yet and is still driving around drunk.
Far too much stress and worry when someone drives under the influence. If he gets his licence back he could well do the same thing again.

Nr. 2 - I just couldn't be in a relationship with someone who is bipolar. I appreciate that some people can and do have great relationships with bipolar people. I need someone very stable by my side and am not the type to be ale to cope with others' mental health issues on a daily basis - learnt that from most recent ex. Thought I could cope but it has sucked me dry.
So you would need to decide whether you could cope with his mental health issue or not.
BUT if he randomly stops taking his tablets then it is a no go. If he has it under control, maybe - but it doesn't sound like it.

So... go for option 3. Leave them both to get on with their lives and find someone else.

Option 3.

Option 3: stay single

If you loved either of them, there would be no choice to make.

Relationships shouldn't be this hard before they've even started.

I have to admit I'm thinking, if every single one of you says anything except option 1 or 2 then I need to wake up and listen!

Thank you!!!

I'm stuck between 2 men

Ooh, matron! Chance would be a fine thing.

Neither! You sound pretty clued up to be fair so I'm sure you'll make the right decision!

Option 3

It's nice to be wanted but they both sound so flawed and you don't love either of them enough to be able to choose between them. Wait for someone better.

Feck me, it's pretty unanimous. It’s like having the choice between a turd and a pile of steaming shit!