Your advice for shacking up? DC involved.

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My dp and I are moving in together after 3.5 years of dating. I have a 6yo DS, who met dp 2 years ago. DS is with his dad almost half the time.

DS, DP and I have holidayed together, we all three do a sport that's quite difficult and frustrating and DP has been great with teaching and being patient with DS, we've spent weekends together, they get on very well, but this feels such a huge step.

We're renting a house that's probably twice the size it needs to be, to ensure everyone has space. DS and I will move in initially and get into our routine, with DP joining after a few weeks.

For those who have done it before - what goes wrong? Is there anything I should think of, or talk to dp/ds about... Or is it just a case of playing it by ear?

I did this in oct 2017. We both have children who live with us 50/50. We played it by ear - a few tricky moments here and there but its good now. We never ever tell each other's DCs off - if there's an issue we let each other know and deal wirh it. I always always prioritise my children's needs over DPs when they are with me (we have lots of time on our own as a couple). Every family is different - for me being kind to each other is baseline rule. You'll figure it out as long as you communicate well.