Girlfriend left due to depression, is there any hope?

[Geoflaz]

Hello , recently my GF of 2 years had broken up with me. I’m devastated.

Her reasons was simple enough... two family members have died and she has been through a medical abortion, she has also just had exams and her life is very manic and busy which I fully understand.
She says she needs time alone to cope with it all and heal , she said her heart is broken along with her head and being alone will Make her heal easily (not having to focus all on me) needless to say she probably has depression.

We haven’t had much communication ; but when we spoke we agreed we’re both still madly in love and still care about eachother but speaking to me makes her upset. Her family still love me and found the breakup sad and unexpected.

I have ordered her roses and a card for valentine’s day to try and cheer her up, was this a bad idea?

Do you think I could make it work? Any ideas? Thankyou!!!

I think you need to giver her the space she needs right now.
She's right.
She needs to focus on herself right now.
You can still send the flowers and card for Valentines. It might cheer her up briefly.
But let her know that for now you will give her space.
No contact for a couple of months and see where she is after that.

If she was genuinely ‘madly in love’ with you, then you would be a support to her in a difficult time and she would not want to end it.

People do not end relationships with people they are madly in love with.

I disagree with a PP. You can become so depressed and exhausted that you only have time for yourself. And if you care about someone you might realise that you can't keep shutting them out and punishing them to cope.

I don't know about the Valentine's day card, and I hate flowers personally but I think it would be a nice gesture without being overbearing if it's sent in a "look after yourself Im here if you need me",almost platonic way, rather than romantic. But you don't need to wait for Valentine's for that really.

With regards to hope...I don't know. She may need a lot of time to feel herself again and then it may be a case of the bad circumstances meaning she feels she needs a fresh start or a long period of time focusing on herself.

If I received flowers on VD from someone I had broken up with after explaining to them that I needed to focus on my own mental health, I would be really fucking annoyed.

It is a tricky one, I struggle bad with anxiety and I can sometimes want to be on my own. But I am madly in love with my fiance, yet I would never ever leave him, he is amazing for support