I'm in a group of five friends. We see each other regularly and sometimes meet in various smaller groups and pairs.
I would say I'm a bit more peripheral, partly through choice (I'm a bit more of a loner and haven't got quite as much in common as some of them do with each other) and partly through their choice. But one of the group I've always been more friendly with, going for coffees, occasional cinema trips etc.
Anyway, for the last couple of years I've been struggling as I've had a couple of experiences that have knocked me badly, including one tragic event. Recently I've gone a bit LC as I've been going through another painful event but still attend the regular groups. The friend I am closest with knows I'm struggling but I haven't heard from her outside of the group meetings for months.I've been through things for her over the last few years, with messages, going to see her, putting cards through the door etc.
When other people are struggling I know she worries about them, messages them and tries to arrange coffee etc because she's told me. I've heard nothing at all from her since well before Christmas (although Ive seen at group events).Not one message, invitation for coffee or anything.
The thing I'm wondering is should I just let it go now? I haven't got many friends, so this is a big part of my friendship group. I'm someone I think people like in passing but don't really make an effort to see. I'm someone who tends to listen rather than talk. I'm not the organiser, I'm the follower. But I'm loyal and caring. And can be quite funny at times.
I find it quite painful the way I'm not borne in mind when I'm struggling (and no it's not always me, as if anything I'm more there for her). I always have a fantasthic time when we go out. But it's also painful that it's so obvious that she doesn't care so much about me.
WWYD. Sorry this is so long!