Help - cheating partner

[KeoMel]

Hi everyone

A matter of hours ago I found out my partner had slept with someone else. On Sunday night. We have been together two years and (very) recently started TTC.

This is not a what should I do should I take him back blah blah etc. This is more of a holy f*ck I never seen this coming in a million years I am feeling a million different things at once I don’t think I can survive this. I can never take him back. He hasn’t even apologised or attempted to explain his reasoning. Not that that would make a difference. Sorry I’ll try to not turn this into a rant. I could just really do with some support right now I am numb and in shock.

I'm sorry you're going through this. It must be a terrible shock.

How did you find out?

I'm so very sorry Do what you feels right for you, put yourself first. X

Thank you both.

I found out as I had seen a taxi booking confirmation on his phone for 3 30 AM on Monday morning. With address. I knew straight away but I checked his call log to see if I could find who it was. There was a girls name he rang twice at the same time the taxi was booked. I rang her and she told me everything.

Oh no what a shock op!

Are you living together or do you have your own place?

It's ok to have a rant in here if you need too - there will be someone to listen

Hi. We used to live together. We briefly separated last year and that’s when we stopped living together. I have since bought my own house and we have not been living together. I said to him ideally I’d want him to move back in with me when when I’m pregnant and a few months along. As I’ve been enjoying having my own space for now and I felt it benefited the relationship looking forward to next seeing eachother again etc. Clearly from his perspective living apart has enabled him to live out his cheating

Sounds like he is not the person you thought he was.

You might not see it now, but lucky escape.

I'm so sorry though, the shock is almost wounding.

I’m devastated. I just feel like I need closure but I know that closure won’t mean anything at all.

That’s a slap in the face but thank god you haven’t had children with him. Get rid, there’s a better life out there for you and your future family.

Thank god you didn't have a baby with him. I think a lot of us have experienced that utter body blow that comes with news like that - I'm so sorry for you.

You’ve had a lucky escape

Thanks for your support everyone.
Although the chance of him succeeding in getting me pregnant is slim to none as we only started trying a week ago, it’s still a scary thought he may have successed. I’ll cross that bridge if it ever comes to it so for now I’ll just put that thought out of my head.

Who starts trying for a baby with someone and within the same week shags somebody else though???? I loved this man (still do, dunno when that will change) and I can’t wrap my head around it. I’m embarrassed even typing this out I feel so humiliated.

What a shock but quite a few of us have been there.... its devastating so sorry

You need STD checks, love

I know I need to get STD rested :(
But they say it’s not detectable until 2 weeks after the contact anyway, so I’m hesistant to get checked now as I’d just have to go back again shortly after.

You love the man you thought he was, not the man he turned out to be.

Was it really only Sunday night, if you have been off and on for a while. This could well just be the only occasion he has been caught and he is hardly likely to readily admit to others. Get yourself tested asap.

Did she tell you whether she had been with him before Sunday? I assume his taxi was taking him home rather than to her house - is that right?

The girl said she only slept with him once. And he tried to sleep with her Thursday night too. The taxi was ordered for her to come to his place.

For clarification we separated properly for 2 months and got back together in June last year. It wasn’t because of infidelity.

Just because it was not her does not mean there were not others last year.

I would be amazed if he hasn't been cheating for ages, OP. He sent a taxi for a woman to go to his house at 3.30 am? That shows a huge sense of entitlement. That wasn't a one-off - he's used to fooling around with other women. You've had a really narrow escape there.

She showed me the text messages and she was begging him to book her a taxi haha. I’m not defending him I’m just answering what people are saying.

It doesn't matter if she was begging him to book the taxi, the fact she even thought she could do that is enough, let alone that he decided to book it.

He's a dick, sorry this happened to you, but thank God no kids involved!
What kind of man even agreed to TTC while he's cheating too?! Such scum. You're better off without him even if you don't see it now, and you will survive.