So I have done a few threads about my relationship and wanting a divorce from my marriage of 10 years. Long story short my husband has always been verbally aggressive, controlling over money etc. When my dad died last year of cancer my husband didn’t support me at all and I will never forgive him. I’ve lost my dad and I can’t rely on my husband to protect me.....anyway...
I have been doing the grey rock technique for months now and he appears to have no intention of leaving. When I bring it up he gets upset, he doesn’t want us to divorce, he seems really desperate. He goes from shouting and swearing at me (in front of 2 year old DD) to making it out that it’s my fault, to then taking the blame and round and round. I’m like an emotional wreck, I can’t take much more. I have made it clear I can’t be in a relationship where I’m scared and nervous. Today he seems really upset, told me I’m ruining all his plans to have a business. He has been saving up to open a place and now he will have to put it on a mortgage. I’ve told him I don’t want any of his money/pension etc. Just want to keep the house for now as our DD is so small. I could try and release some of the equity, but it will state on the deeds what percentage he owns. I just feel I shouldn’t sell, I have paid double what he has and the house was my grandparents and we got it VERY cheap when they passed away. Also his salary is 5 x mine and I have DD most of the time. He is making himself out to be the victim but it’s his doing. He has a horrible temper.
I’ve rang a few lawyers, none of them offer a free consultation so I’m stuck until I get some spare money.
I just can’t believe how stressed and upset I feel, does this get any better. I don’t know what to do anymore.