Heads a mess

[katiek96]

Hi all.

I write this looking to get everything off my chest and maybe some advise on how to go about things.

I have an 8 month son and my partner I have been with for 4 years. My partner is brilliant with my son can't do enough for him but things just aren't the same anymore, hardly no sex..lack of communication.. things are going downhill I can tell

Anyway back to the point of this!!!

A few days ago I received a message from someone who I used to sleep with/see for a few years also. He stated he would love to meet and catch up as it's been forever. This has sent my mind into a spin and he keeps on texting. At one point in my life he is all i ever wanted but why choose now to text me after 5 years of nothing. He also has a girlfriend and wishes this to be kept a secret.

We have been flirting whilst texting and my mind is now in two half's... do I carry on and find out why he's messaging me or meet him?

My head is a mess. Gahhhhh

Do not contact this other man any more, he is merely looking for an opportunity. You are wise to be suspicious of him, why now after 5 years of silence?. And he wants you to keep this all secret as well, another red flag. He is a sleaze really, do you really want to be the other woman here?.

If things are not great between you and your current man here, address those properly rather than get swept along by flirtation from a past boyfriend.

What kind of twat has a girlfriend and sends flirty texts to a woman with an 8 month old baby? Eurgh. Avoid.

Block him, nothing good can come out of it. He is an ex for a reason x

Thanks guys. We never actually was together it was always me running after him and he always made excuses as to why we "couldn't" be together.

He says he missed what we had etc. It's hard because at one point for over 5 years we was so close and he was all I wanted.

I was thinking of telling his partner but what would be the point of causing someone else misery!

He says he missed what we had

Eh? What did you have? Doesn’t sound like you had much at all!

Polkadotting- We was seeing each other for years, meeting and hanging out. We did become really close at one point. But he's with someone and so am I now.

I think he's just after getting into my knickers and likes the idea of the chase for me!

Yep. He’s after an easy shag and you were always running after him so he thinks you’ll be easy now. Avoid avoid avoid.