Treat them mean ?

[Endofmyteather2206]

Bit of background information

Me and my OH split months ago as they had met some one else and broke up with me to be with this other person. We separated for a few months but we got back together. A few lies were told about the other person and what happened but that’s in the past

What I want to know is that since we got back together it’s always me who’s doing the running, chasing and generally being the best partner I can be, for example looking after step children, cooking cleaning etc and trying to spice up our sex life which hardly exists.

My point is that because I realised what I lost, I do all this do this make me more desirable and wanted ? Or should I go down the route of treat them mean keep them keen ?

I’m not into playing games at my age and just want to be happy, but it seems the more I do the less I get back !!!

Google Sami Wunder or search for her on Facebook. Not to everyone’s taste but I find her helpful.

I don’t think it really works. Most sane people wouldn’t put up with it & just move on.

Depends on whether your partner left because they felt neglected. If so perhaps a period of "putting back in" needed if you know what I mean. But that said, your current approach isn't healthy or sustainable as your partner will take it all for granted eventually and you will exhaust yourself. It needs to be a balance with both partners inputting.

Really rocked your self esteem, you should just be yourself, not having to go to a great deal of extra to stop him looking elsewhere.
I’d move on, ideally not what you want but if your not getting anything back it just seems to be a convenient relationship until the next person turns up.
I know this sounds awful and I’m sorry, just trying to be honest

Forget the head games, sack it off and move on!