Please give me perspective: He is married?

[Bloombury009]

I recently got back together with a man. This was the fifth time of us getting back together. He told me that he had changed. It was the same behaviour -ignoring and ghosting me.

All communications have to be from him. If I call or texts, he will not respond. I finally found the courage and send him a message to leave me alone. He sent me a message that he does not wants to hear from me as well and making it out that I was unstable.

People are not that busy, it depends where you are on their priority. I have a feeling that he is married.

He's either married or controlling. Neither of which are desirable qualities.

Why are you wasting your time?

He's either married or controlling. Neither of which are desirable qualities.

Why are you wasting your time?

^^This

Walk away OP, he sounds like a prize arsehole and you can do much better. Maybe spend some time working out why your self esteem/worth is so low that you would keep going back to a man like this instead of finding someone who treats you right.

Why would you keep going back to someone that treats you like that?

I wouldn't assume he is married, but more that if he knows he can treat you like crap he'll keep doing it, simply because he can.

Were you actually in a relationship, or just sleeping together?

Another voice to echo the above - what are you getting from this relationship?

He’s a knob. Find someone who doesn’t have a degree in being a dick.

Did you ever get to visit him at his place or was it a one sided thing?

If someone wants to see you, they will always make time to.

If someone wants to talk to you, they will always make time to.

Stop setting the bar so low. Find someone who deserves you

Thank you all for your kind messages.

@Bombarddier, we have never slept together. I don't know why I kept taking him back as his behaviour has not changed. I am not going back this time.

@Mumsy, one sided

OP
You are worth much more than this!

Every time you are tempted to contact this person or to reply to him, look in the mirror and repeat to yourself 10x

I am worth more than this

How long have you been together in the past? Not including break ups...

Run run run. Ghosting and making out you're crazy when you try to contact him based on the assumption you're in a relationship are classic controlling behaviours. It's really irrelevant whether he's married or not - you shouldn't be with him, he's bad news.

@Bombardier, We met last year in August and have not really been together long because of his ghosting and ignoring me. He phone me as many times as he like and I would pick up the calls. He would never answer my calls, texts - sometimes for a week, so I each time, I ended it.

He would come back apologising but then it's good for a few days and he would go back to ghosting me.

Block his number from calls, texts, WhatsApp etc. Delete any old messages, don't leave anything that gives you the option to contact him.

And move on.

waytooearly - this absolutely is the best venue for support. What would advise - AIBU?

And I can't see AnyFucker in this thread? You will get deleted for your personal attack. What a horrible post (yours)

Thank you all so much. I was feeling so bad but now realise that the man is not good for me, he is disrespectful.

There are sooooo many people out there who will be lovely to you! You will find the lovely ones more easily if you don't waste time with jerks.

Sounds like he's married. Especially if he refuses to take your calls. Or he is a player and is not committed to a relationship.