My new boyfriends ex!

[Mummytolil]

I don’t know if perhaps this is my own insecurity or not.. I have been seeing someone for 5 months now, it’s going really well and I am really in to him, we both have children from previous relationships so obviously there needs to be contact with ex’s however his ex sometimes tries to flirt when he told her a few weeks ago that they weren’t getting back together she huffed and puffed about it. She has a new boyfriend but sometimes he makes silly sly remarks to her about her new relationship, I’m starting to feel like he is maybe not over her completely.. what do I do?

I suspect you’re reading too much in to it. If she ‘huffed and puffed’ about not getting back together and he wasn’t over her, that would have been an opportunity for them to re kindle things.

As it is, he’s chosen to be with you, so I would take confidence from that and try not to doubt him. If you question it too much, you’ll only convince yourself there is something where there is nothing.

I think it’s just little things happen and I over think, like why does he ask about her new relationship and then make sly digs about it? Sometimes whenever there is the slightest thing if she clicks her fingers he goes running to the rescue..

You've been seeing each other for 5 months but he only told her a few weeks ago they weren't getting back together? Wtf?

She was trying to flirt with him and he told her that they weren’t ever going to get back together and that she needs to understand that it’s done.. I don’t think he is over her

Sounds like it will be a relationship of 3.
Run a mile.

How do you know any of this?
It's a bit mention-itis isn't it?

Hang in, she flirts, she huffs and puffs, but it's him that's not over her?

What comments does he make?

He makes comments such as “enjoy your relationship” silly little things like that, which I would expect from an immature teenager who is being bitter to an ex.. I know these things from what he has told me

How long ago exactly did they break up? Sounds like it hasn't been a clear cut and distant break up?

Agree with others, they sound fairly entangled for Ex's

They split up June last year

Ok, so timeline is they split up in June and you got together around August? It sounds as though they're still very involved, and his remarks definitely sound immature. 2/3 months is also very little time between breaking up and moving on.

In all honesty, I'd walk away.

I am taking this into consideration, because I don’t want to be anybody’s second best. He moved on quickly, which makes me think there are still feelings there

He really shouldn’t care about what she’s doing unless it involves his kids. Trust your gut x

Why exactly is he recounting these stories to you?

Maybe he doesn't want to get back with her...but also doesn't want her to be with anyone else and is jealous.

It happens more than you think.

But if he is jealous there’s obviously reason for it

You’re right- it is the behaviour of an immature teenager. It’s a red flag for sure. Does he do all this taunting and sly comments in front of you or does he tell you afterwards? I’d ask him why he’s so into winding his ex up. Then I’d probably leave!