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What to do with wedding album from a dead marriage?

44 replies

tiddlywinkiewoo · 29/01/2019 20:09

I was married for 20 years (happily) until ex husband met OW and left us.
I've been divorced for two very painful years now.
Would you keep your wedding album... for the kids? For memories???

Thoughts?

OP posts:

Juststopit · 29/01/2019 21:25

I took out the photos of me and my family and gave ex the rest. May have drawm a moustache on one of my god awful ex mil and written cunt across my ex’s forehead in one but the rest are intact.

EatingElephantsIsCF · 29/01/2019 21:28

I would keep it for your kids . Hopefully it shows you both were in love when you got married and when the children were born.

madcatladyforever · 29/01/2019 21:31

I have absolutely no idea OP. I'm in the same position. I thought I had married the love of my life, our wedding day was the best day I ever had and after almost 20 years he left me when I was really ill in hospital to go swinging and "find himself" the monstrous twat.
I currently have the wedding album in my loft and am unable to look at it at all or get rid of it.
It can live there in the far corner for the next several years until I decide what to do with it.
I am incapable of making this decision. I expect it will still be there after my death.

Bitrustyandbusty · 29/01/2019 21:35

I got rid of framed photos from around the house when we split, but kept the wedding album. It’s away in a cupboard somewhere. I barely looked at it anyway, after the event, even before the marriage fell apart. However, it is still part of my history and our offspring may like to flick through it one day. No dramas, no issues with it one way or another, it is just exactly what it is.

PearsandWine · 29/01/2019 21:37

I removed and binned all the pictures of me and left the album and the remainder of the photos for exH. Did the same with the holiday photo albums.

He was cheating virtually from our honeymoon so to my way of thinking we were never really together. He can substitute images of his various OW instead.

PortiaCastis · 29/01/2019 21:42

I kept 3 photos and burned the rest along with the wedding dress, kept a nice one of my Parents one of me with my now late Dad and one of dd in her bridesmaid dress

Whothere · 29/01/2019 21:44

I’ve kept mine because despite the fact we had a very messy divorce we had a lovely wedding.

Tiredemma · 29/01/2019 21:48

My Mum and dad divorced when I was 18. My Mum died last year and I now have their wedding album. I look at it often and am reminded that for 20 they were together and happy. I cherish it. My Mum looks just beautiful. I'm so glad she kept it.

misskiki69 · 29/01/2019 22:17

As soon as I found out that he'd dipped his married wick inside another woman, I ripped that goddamn wedding album to smithereens. It clearly was all a sham. In my eyes, he made a mockery of our wedding vows and was a stranger to me. We divorced soon after I discovered his affair. 10 years later, I've never ever regretted ripping up the album. We have no children together but I'm pretty sure I'd have done the same nevertheless.

Nnnnnineteen · 29/01/2019 22:23

Kept it plus all other photos of he and I together. I want him to spontaneously combust, but have always (v honestly) told dd that I adored her dad and he adored me when we got married. I hate the thought that she may think she was borne into an unhappy home when that is not true and she remembers the happy times. She knows it is hers to do with as she wishes when she is older.

Bekabeech · 29/01/2019 22:25

I'd keep it and when you can add labels so in the future your kids will be able to recognise the relatives and old friends (as well as laugh at the fashions).

ooooohbetty · 29/01/2019 22:39

I binned mine.

RamblinRosie · 29/01/2019 22:52

I got my parents’ album when my father died, my parents separated.

The album contains my only photos of my, much loved, aunt and other relatives.

Keep it and pass it down to a relative who will value it.

DemelzaPoldarksshinerrefiner · 29/01/2019 23:23

Missing the main thrust of thread. @juststopit what kind of moustache? A Dick Strawbridge , a magnificent Victorian handlebar, or one of those artist paintbrush in the philtrum ‘ taches. :-)

Juststopit · 30/01/2019 10:17

Demelza I just added a little to what she naturally has already. . I m such a cow!

Rio18 · 30/01/2019 11:05

Left mine behind when I left exH

Myheartbelongsto · 30/01/2019 13:58

I chucked mine in the bin years ago.

Will have a new one soon!

Blobby10 · 30/01/2019 15:52

I've still got mine in the loft somewhere with loads of other memorabilia. Still got the dress too but think that might go to the tip before next house move as there's no way my daughter would want to wear it - far too frothy!! Have kept the (very long) veil for her though, just in case. Still got pics of Ex with the kids all round the house but think they will be gradually put away over the coming months as I prep the house to sell.

Blobby10 · 30/01/2019 15:53

My brother found it very therapeutic to burn all his wedding photos when he discovered his wife of 18 months was having an affair with his best friend .

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