Ex wants me to terminate

[l0psy]

Nearly eight weeks pregnant and recently told my ex... He already has two kids and is adamant i should have a termination, although he respects that it's my choice.
That being said, do you have to put the father down on the birth certificate? I don't want him to think I've trapped him in any way and don't want him to ever have to pay child maintenance. Is that possible?
I love him and realize that this isn't thebest situation for him, therefore that's why i don't want to involve him. But i really want this child and am confident in my capabilities.

As far as I understand it if you register the birth alone he can't go on the birth certificate and wouldn't have parental responsibility. He can later all to go on it and works then also get parental responsibility. I think I'm either case you could claim maintenance but of course he would then want responsibility too. I expect more experienced people will be among shortly. Congratulations, and personally I think you should give by far the most considerations to your feelings, you are ultimately the most affected.

Sorry! He can later ask to go on it and would then get responsibility.

He doesn't have to go on the birth certificate. This means he has no legal rights.

He can be added at a later date - with you being present as well as him - or by a court awarding him parental responsibility.

In either case you can claim child maintenance from him if you went too.

Decision to terminate or keep is entirely your decision - your body your choice

Pog, thanks for your response.
Yeah that's the thing, I don't want him to feel legally obligated at all. It's fine if he wants to involve himself to whatever level he deems appropriate, but i don't want to force him to pay child maintenance or force responsibility on him as i know he struggles with how little he sees his two girls now.

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Or if you didn't want to claim child maintenance that's also your decision

Finally Free, thank you for your response.

Yeah, i wouldn't want to as i know he struggles financially due to debt that his ex racked up and made him acquire as well as him paying maintenance to his ex for his daughters.
I understand that this child doesn't affect just me and him, but also his kids and his ex. There's a huge blowback and i totally understand why he wants me to get a termination, unfortunately i just can't bring myself to get one.

@l0psy

From what you're saying you want this baby.
I'm reading your post & responses that you have decided you want the baby but your stuck on what to do about him.
If you want your baby then keep it, don't do anything about the birth certificate / maintenance. He may decide to step up / change his mind at a later date or whatever (I don't know him)
But you need to think what is best for you in this situation.