I got engaged last week and am thrilled. It was unexpected in timing even though I knew we would get engaged soon as we had discussed it.
However, here's what is making me feel odd:
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We both agreed our wedding would be in a few years time, 2-3, I want to save money for it as does he, but financially we have other commitments that we want to prioritise (building an extension on our house)
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I have always dreamed of a nice wedding and throughout our relationship we have discussed what we'd want and have agreed now. It would be smallish (30-40) and destination. We want to keep costs down and pay for as much of our guests stay as possible, but we want this type of wedding so are prepared to save. (the wedding would still be cheaper than a typical stately home type in UK - South)
People keep making comments about it being 2-3 years away, with the odd comment of 'better not have a baby before then'
I'm 24! I don't even know if I want children let alone any time soon. We are both as a couple on the same page with this. I would like the time to save and plan casually without getting worked up. We both work long days in 'professional' jobs. All our savings before engagement are in the house.
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the comments about babies in general, like 'be careful you dont get pregnant', 'are you pregnant?' etc.
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His parents didn't seem overjoyed. They didn't know he was planning it, only my parents did (he asked their permission). But with his sister they shared her engagement, wrote on social media, even though they hate the husband. (Genuinely hate, say awful things)
I feel like less important and it's upset me. The only comment his mother really said was 'I'm going to be a pro at planning weddings now'. I don't want her involved at all, either does DP.