Hello, I'm new to the site, but can do with some urgent advice please.
I'm a single mum to 2 teenage girls. I met a lovely guy last year and on the whole things have been good. We had a couple of dates before he labelled it a "relationship" which I thought was a bit too soon, but didn't say anything.
Anyway very soon after, he was busy and not making time for us, despite my requests and making plans to do things together, he would say "I'm busy, or that he wasn't interested in the activity I had thought of" Fast forward a few months, he has been diagnosed with blood cancer (I've not seen edovance of this, just what he has told me) and he was banned for driving for a year, due to being an idiot. Anyway he's been apologetic for not making time for us when he had the luxury and promises he will always make me a priority.
So recently I have been helping him out financially; he has taken on a second job working night. I have paid for a bus pass, topped up his mobile, bought a couple of things for him and I regularly pick him up or drop him to work, as this is the only time we can spend together.
So when I picked him up today, he told me a female friend asked him for help and she needed money which she would pay straight back, but she hasn't and it's been a few days! I didn't say anything at the time, but I'm fuming right now! He is completely broke! It took him 2 weeks to scrape £25 for a new log book so he can sell his car and here he's giving money away to a friend! He didn't say how much, but I got a feeling it was a couple of hundred, from the way he was kicking off!
I just feel so unappreciated and undervalued! I've never asked him to pay towards the petrol because I know he's struggling with money. But this feels like a slap in the face! Am I over-reacting?