Always arguing

[MissSamantha]

Has anyone been in a relationship that is always constant arguments?

Basically ive been with my partner for 2 years now, but our relationship has reached a horriable point of constant arguing an disarguments that leads to massive arguments

Ive done everything i can to save our realtionships, i have tried talking about the arguments an the affect it has on my 6 year old daughter but its like speaking to a brick wall. I have left the room so we can both calm down but he follows me an makes it ten times worse. I have suggested that he moves out an tried to explain why i feel like this is the best option but he wont listen.

I have tried telling him we should call it a day an go our seperate ways because all these arguments are taking a toll on my 6 year old but once again he wont listen! Its gotten to the point now that i dont want to be around him, i sleep on the sofa an he sleeps in the bed. While my little ones at school we sit in complete slience if im not at work.

Is this relationship even worth saving? Could we find our happines again? Or would it be best to call it a day an just make him leave

I feel like a nasty mother right now

The problem appears to be that he doesn't respect you one iota. You try to discuss, argument, you walk off, argument, you ask him to leave, refusal and argument.

Get him out of your life, you can see it's hurting your child.

Thank you, i think thats the best thing to do as the arguments are affecting my little one now. Im gunna bag his stuff an tell him 2 leave

Maybe consider having a family member with you just in case he refuses. Given he has form for ignoring your wishes.

Yeah i think i will thank you. Its just got to the point where i feel like its not worth trying to save the relationship

Is it his daughter too? Looks like you are just not getting on and not good ifit is affecting her

Is it your house? Honestly if it's like this on the early stages then it will get much, much worse.

Arguing is not unhealthy but if there is never resolution (which is probably what is happening which is why you keep arguing) then it becomes toxic.

Some people don't want to get along, they don't want to find common ground or try to understand each other..they enjoy the conflict as it's a way of control.

If you have children you owe then a peaceful childhood as it's scary for children to hear adults arguing.

Relationships aren't meant to be this much stress. I have about 1 argument a year with my partner and it's usually resolved in 10 mins.
(I've also been in a constantly arguing relationship and this one is a million times better...)
Get him out.

I don't think you have a relationship at all op just an angry bloke living in your home.
I would say as someone who was in a miserable marriage/relationship for many years I feel bloody amazing everyday now, without trying, without the burden of an unhappy home to return to every night.
This will be having a really bad impact on your young daughter too, so for her sake find the fight to kick him out once and for all.

Nope its not his daughter an its my house. I know his had a bit of a hard life, but i literally tried everything to make this relationship stronger i cant now i need to give up

You will probably be doing him a favour too op, he can't be happy in this situation either.

You know what you need to do - good luck. You've made up your mind- time to cut him out

Thank you everyone x

Nope. You don't get on. Sounds like a toe in the door to hell for me.

It would drive me round the bend to have someone following me to carry on an argument, particularly if my children were there.

I think your life would be much more peaceful without him.