Am I going to find it hard to meet someone?

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Hi all,

I was sitting there the other day fairly content with my life. Hadn’t really thought much of it and someone asked? Are you happy being single? They went on. “I mean at your age shouldn’t you be really married by now? Have children?”.

Now I’m 35/36 years of age. I didn’t really think that was old to be single? Am I missing something here? Am I going to find it hard to meet someone?

Hopefully I want to meet someone to marry and have children with? I suppose I would be looking for someone my age? Would age put you off a potential partner?

Thoughts please? Am I being stupid listening to this person?

Have you always been single? Are you male or female?

I think the person asking you those questions was rather rude. I wouldn't dream of being so personal.

Tell you what, I have a single, straight, thirty nine year old son. Good career, decent house, friends, quite interesting and nice looking. Cooks too. Interested ;) ?

Seriously, relax You'll meet someone who is looking for a woman just like you (I'm assuming you're a woman, forgive me if you're not). In the meantime, I hope you enjoy life, especially your job which is most important. Plan an interesting trip for later in the year. The world is your oyster!

Well if you have got to the age of 36 without thinking about it before then I would say you have a unique talent for not worrying, good on you.

Yes, you're being stupid listening to this person.

I think they were extremely rude. If you're happy single then yes you should ignore them.

In terms of meeting someone and having children : I don't think your age is a barrier to meeting someone but it will increasingly be a barrier to having children, assuming you're a woman.

If you are female, yes it will get harder to have children as time goes on. If you haven't got to the stage of meeting anyone yet, your 35 can become 40 or 45 pretty quickly, and your fertility will become a really big issue.

If you're male, not such a big deal , lucky you.

Ditto what Fraxinus said, I think you sound great and very laidback which is a vv attractive quality! Means you're independently happy.
I was just reading about Natalie Clifford Barney who carried on having flings and relationships into her 90s so I think you're good

It does become harder because as the years go by more people are paired up. Plus more people will already have dc and you may or may not have strong feelings about dating and or marrying someone with dc.

My friend married for the first time at 49 but she didn’t meet this guy till she was 47. She had always wanted dc but at that age it was never going to happen.

You can fall in love at any age but love isn’t enough when it comes to fertility.

Now I’m 35/36 years of age. I didn’t really think that was old to be single? Am I missing something here? Am I going to find it hard to meet someone?

^Yes and yes

Whatever floats your boat OP. If you've always been single and now wanting to start dating, I don't think it's too late nor you're too old, but be prepared for the baggage that comes with dating ( prepare to be thick skinned as some people can be full of it).
Hoping you find the right person for you. Goodluck .