Should I report him to the police?

[wideleggedpants]

Finally had the courage to walk away from verbally and occasionally physically abusive DP. He'd been giving me the classic 'trying to change' - he'd been in therapy and making all the right noises to pacify me but after a scary outburst last week I decided enough is enough.

Last year there were a couple of incidents where he was violent and he broke a couple of my high-value items. He paid to fix them afterwards (I have receipts for this) and I wrote down at the time what happened (I planned to leave him then but he somehow talked me round). He also pushed and scratched me.

Should I report him to the police for the damage? It was pretty serious and I was terrified when it happened. I have no idea how he managed to minimize it to me so much afterwards.

One one hand I'd like to walk away and forget he ever existed but on another I don't think he should get away with this, and I wonder if it might be the shock he needs to finally get real help.

I have reported him to the police once before for an incident about a year ago.

Only report to police if you are going to give a statement and are going to support the police prosecuting him and you will be the victim/witness at court. If you're not willing to do this then it's a waste of police time. To be honest if it was a while ago there may not be evidence to prosecute now or the CPS may decide it's not in the public interest to prosecute.

If you've gathered the strength to leave him then I don't understand why you'd want to do this now . Yes it's criminal damage, I'd be more understanding if it was the assaults you wanted to prosecute. Personally I'd just want to cut all contact and have nothing more to do with him.

Thank you @elasticfantastic. It would be a slog to prosecute but I guess a part of me is sad that I've been left with so many battle scars while he gets to continue living a pretty charmed life looking for the next victim. Nobody deserves to be treated the way he treated me

What elasticfantastic wrote.

Re your comment:-
"On one hand I'd like to walk away and forget he ever existed but on another I don't think he should get away with this, and I wonder if it might be the shock he needs to finally get real help".

I would work on you by enrolling yourself onto the Freedom Programme run by Womens Aid. I do not think that reporting him again would be the shock he needs to finally get real help because abusive men people feel entitled to act like this and do not think they are or have done anything wrong here. He does not want any help or support. You've got away from him, stay well away from him now too.