I really need advice please!

[HarryR]

Hi,

I’m new here, I didn’t know which other site to sign up on to ask for advice to I’m hoping I get some answers.

I’ve worked for this company for 3 years now, and I have had strong feelings for this woman that works there with me, ever since I started. I’m 25 she’s 35, she’s also married with 3 kids.

We get along so well together, we make each other laugh, joke, argue, make up, give each other advice. Lately she has been texting me ALOT, and when I say a lot I mean from when she wakes up to when she goes to sleep. Even when I stop texting she will send me a message again and I love it, I’ve never felt so good in my life. It’s just strange and new to me Cos we never texted much before.

But she tells me she is not happy with her husband and that he’s not treating her right, they have been married for 5 years or so. She knows I really care for her, and that I have feelings for her, she’s always joked about it though Cos I’m young obviously, at work we have banter but you would never think she is attracted to me

Sometimes she can be abit flirty over text and teases me, but never directly, I just want to know if any of you think she could be slightly interested in me, I really care for her so much, we talk about everything when we text, surely if you wasn’t interested you wouldn’t text constantly, about her day and her problems and how she’s happy I’m there for her and how sweet I am.

Please any advice?

She's married. Walk away

You are not real to her, you are just an escape.

Can you imagine taking on a woman ten years older with 3 kids? You're out of your depth. Do you want a furious husband on your back?

I don’t have any intention of taking her on, just want to know why she is messaging me all the time it’s blagging my head

Can you imagine taking on a woman ten years older with 3 kids? You're out of your depth. Do you want a furious husband on your back?

I'm 36 with 2 kids, my bf is 26 so age in itself isn't something I'd judge on.
Totally agree though that you're out of your depth, she's using you to escape her reality. If she's genuinely got these issues with her husband then she should be focusing on either sorting those or leaving him, but not for you.

Even if she did leave him I couldn’t see myself with her, I wouldn’t be able to take on any kids I don’t even know how to work a washing machine.
I know in the back of my mind that she could be using me to talk to whilst she goes through that with her husband, probably will stop talking as much when they are happy again, who knows my head is just confused with it all, I can’t even play Xbox anymore

HarryR "Even if she did leave him I couldn’t see myself with her, I wouldn’t be able to take on any kids I don’t even know how to work a washing machine."

Then stop playing along, stop contributing to this imaginary flirty life you have with her. You know what they say about playing with fire....

She’s bored, looking for an escape from her dreary life. She’s using you

2ellenor2 Maybe so, but he's using her too thought. He has no intention of taking it further.

It's a bit of fun that could go horribly wrong if she suddenly leaves her partner or he finds her phone.

Even if she did leave him I couldn’t see myself with her, I wouldn’t be able to take on any kids

FYI Some women are perfectly self sufficient without a man ' taking on' them or their children
You do sound very young though OP, go back to your Xbox and leave this woman o deal with her own life

First off - tell her that this is making you uncomfortable. She is married and you think she should work on that.
Then get on youtube and start teaching yourself how to be self-sufficient.
How to look after yourself.
How to use a washing machine, hoover, change a bed, dust, clean a toilet etc....
How have you got to 25 without knowing any of this!???

I don’t even know how to work a washing machine.

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Are you fucking joking?

You sound like teenager. Get a grip, she is married with 3 kids. She is using you and you're just playing along with it all.