Ex Husband anger is relentless. When will it stop?

[spookytwinmummy]

Hi Mums

new poster here.

Looking for advice, my ex husband and I separated over a year ago, and have just divorced. Long story short, I did not love him anymore, but tried for many years to make it work, even though we've had lots of financial and emotional things to deal with. We have 2 children both under 10, and because I finally got the guts the leave and move on, he thinks I didn't try and have ran away. He keeps accusing me of messing our children's lives up (I would never do that).

His messages are daily, and he will just not stop his anger towards me. Now I did expect this, as I am aware the end of a relationship is hard. I know I hurt him, but surely he deserves to be with someone who loves him?? He constantly calls me a coward, and I just ran away from our problems. I told him several times leading up to this, that I wasn't happy. He kept brushing it off (in denial).

I feel so alone and don't know who to talk to about this, it is really getting to me.

Any advice welcome x

Can you limit conversation to just talking about the children

I've tried, I said we only speak about the children. He just reverts back. I try ignoring messages but he doesn't stop.

Easier said than done but delete and don’t read anything unless it is regarding the children - access etc.

Maybe the only other option would be legal advice and a warning that if he doesn’t back off then a harassment order or something if it’s possible.

Just try to be the bigger person, ignore, delete do not reply full stop. He’ll hopefully tire of it eventually

Thai won’t change overnight

So ignore ALL messages except those that are polite/about the kids

Do not reply to anything else

If he carries on, get yourself a new phone number and move the sim to an old phone or something

You won’t change things until you break the chain

I would block phone contact and inform him that he should email you instead, limiting matters to relevant issues about the children. Specify this, don't leave it open ended. Maybe even set up an email account specifically for this. Use a third party to relay emergency matters, e.g. your parents. Take it from there.

If it continues, then a solicitors letter warning him that further unsolicited contact will be considered harassment.

Lemon gives good advice above. You’ve tried to be nice, enough is enough. You are entitled to some peace.