Having just ended a 3 year relationship which began as an OLD, I realise that my bullshitometre is seriously off. I was easily taken in and manipulated and it's not nice to know that about myself.
I was diagnosed with Autism earlier in the year and this explains why I am more gullible and naive. I take people at face value and don't understand when someone has an agenda. My self-esteem is much healthier than it has been in the past, so it's not a case of me being willing to put up with unreasonable behaviour or being emotionally needy. It's literally a case of me not recognising when someone is being less than honest, or showing red flags.
I'd like to change this, I need to learn the rules. The 'swipe left' thread is really helpful but what makes people swipe right?
BTW I am not interested in dating at all right now. I've got a lot to learn before I'm ready for anything else and I just want to enjoy my life with my dc without the complication of a relationship. However, sometimes things like attraction creep up on you and if thst happens I don't want to be at a disadvantage.
TIA