Contact Arrangments

[CF43]

I need some help. again.

I am supposed to be going to to a mediation meeting about contact arrangments with my ex husband this thursday but i am reluctutant to go as he will not agree to financial settlement.

I am saying that I can not go to this meeting until he agrees a monthly amount as if it keep's going up and down every time he has him how is this going to fair.

He's now saying he won't agree to financial settlement unless i agree to the access.

Your dc are not pay per view. File a case with cms and make a contact arrangement that suits your dc.

Take it out of both of your hands and let CMS decide on an amount based on his earnings then there is no need to discuss this at mediation. Go to mediation to discuss contact arrangements though, getting that sorted asap is in your DC interest. Withholding access or structured access until you are paid what you consider an adequate amount is really shitty for him.

CMS for maintenance- all can be done online for the application.

Mediation for the access arrangements

sorry I should explain, he can see him when he likes at the moment as we live in the same house, the trouble is he's with holding the divorce going through all the time because he keep's coming up with different excuses.

I'm not stopping him from seeing his son, it's him that doesn't want to see him, hasn't contacted him for the past two weeks when he's been away with work.

I know it's not pay per view, i'm upset because this man has had nothing to do with him for 7 years in the same house, not helped in anyway shape or form in bringing him up, now that i want a divorce he has said he wants his son as it's his right. Just because he is out of nappies and not needing constant attention anymore surley doesn't give him the right to demand I give him over to him for a week and we end up no money the following month, I don't understand the process.

Financial arrangements through CMS, there is no arguing, no need to deal with each other. It’s all worked out on how many nights your son stays with his father. No nights then you’ll get full amount

Sorry. Decreases when it goes over 52 nights I think, but as you’re still living in the same house then he’s not technically having his child overnight really.

What does your solicitor say regarding this?

Unless you’re going 50/50 shared parenting, then the standard is usually every other weekend with the non cohabiting parent with a weekday evening visit.

You need to go to mediation really as if he takes it to court then the court may act unfavourably. It can only go to court though if an agreement can’t be made through mediation first.