is cleaning mad and if I out residual cups etc in the sink after putting on a wash, he would bang them around saying he can't believe i wouldn't wash them. This on a busy morning getting two dc up, breakfast etc. I am fairly environmentally conscious and am trying to reduce waste while he will pop an empty coke can into the bin, next to the recycling.. and recently he's starting smoking which I find abhorrent and when I met them after a day out myself, my 3yo smelt of smoke 
because there's a smell in his car. He says I do nothing but my priorities are good food for the dc, laundry being kept going and then the extra cleaning bits. What do you think?