My relationship with my SIL has never been perfect but in the last year it has deteriorated. She is quite a demanding and a strong character yet she can be charming and generous too. I always get the feeling she is competing with me but to what end I'm unsure, if I've done something, she's always done something bigger, smaller, better or worse. l am now unable to rise above it and hate the thought she might feel she's winning. As an adult I know this is lunacy and irrational. She came round recently and the atmosphere just felt tense and uncomfortable. I don't know how to turn this around. I have tried but nothing works. Anyone have any tips? I just need to get to a point where l can talk to her without feeling defensive and avoid being drawn into a passive
aggressive one upmanship contest.
Her relationship with her brother, my DH has also been rocky and often he doesn't want to see her or discuss her which doesn't help.