Single for a year and back In Dating game.

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So I have had a very tough two years, split with my ex husband after he hurt me Infront of our child. Then got into one relationship where he was cheating on me and hurt my daughter. Been single just over a year now so thought I'd see what's out there, been on a few 1st dates but one guy I've seen 5 times now and since starting to chat to him I've not spoke to any other men. I like him but a few little make me a bit unsure:

1. He knows my ex husband and everything that has happened to me and my daughter.
2. He openly offered to have the Claire's law and Sarah's law checks done.

He hasn't put any pressure on me for anything and is a perfect gent and I do like him.
I'm a little worried about the fact he knows my ex husband and his family and would it make it a no go really?

You’ve seen him 5 times. That should earn you a bit of opportunity to know him. Because he knows your ex is certainly a worry factor but the fact that he didn’t hide it should be in his favour. For me I wouldn’t jump in with both feet but he sounds like he might be worth a chance. Good luck.

Thanks I have no intention of rushing things with him. I have took him up on his offer of the checks they take up to 45 days to come back. Certainly won't be introducing my daughter for a long time, what's the ideal time frame for that? My exh hasn't seen DD now 7 in over 7 months and has a new baby with a woman that DD has met once. He has been with this woman for a year and a half.

That’s probably outside my field of expertise. My gut tells me about 3-4 months when you are confident about how you feel (basically do you want DD to know). The fact that her father isn’t involved and appears not to want to be should be an indication that maybe he shouldn’t be in the equation.

Don't settle with the first guy you date. Get dating others before making up your mind! Plenty of fish in the sea

When I met DH DD1 was 4. We dated 12 months before I introduced them so I wad 100% sure about him.

Hi OP. Have you done the freedom programme or had counselling, to help minimise the risk of meeting another abusive partner?
It worries me that your ex husband assaulted you in front of your child, and then the next boyfriend 'hurt' your child.
Two years really isn't that long anyway.
Good luck.

Yes I did the freedom program last year and still engage with harbour now in the recovery program.