Any first time mum's out there that felt different towards their OH after baby?

[Honey91]

I'm interested to see if any other new mums out there have experienced their feelings changing towards their other half after they have had a baby?
I have a 8 month old baby, and my feelings towards my partner have changed since.

I feel like the love me and my partner have has disappeared. I've heard this is common in the first year of having a baby for some parents. Has anyone else experienced this?

My husband was a miserable sod for over a year after our daughter was born. I suspected mild pnd but he wouldn’t address it. Things are back to how they were now but for a while I didn’t see our marriage lasting

Yes, it was awful. I was genuinely considering leaving him and how to do it. Baby didn't sleep at all, we have an older one and we both work a lot so were all knackered. He was really unreasonable a lot of the time (I, of course, was angelic throughout ). Baby is now 16 months and I'd say we've been back to normal -if not better - for about 5 months. Try to keep talking and don't expect to feel loved up at the moment, ever. Sending hugs, it's tough!

My dp and I had a really rough patch for the first 5 months. Back and forth with mixed feelings mainly from me. I spent my whole pregnancy forgetful and suddenly all the shitty things he had done come flooding back really clearly and I just felt that I wasn't going to deal with anything with this new perfect baby.
At times I was extremely righteous and was pushing him away even though we were genuinely happy.
Your emotional are truly all over the place and what seems right isn't always.
Now we are so much better and we realise that it was the change in our relationship having a baby ( baby was no real issue) learning to love each other while becoming parents

Actually, I loved DP more after the birth of our first child. We were both in awe of the gorgeous LO we had together.

The hormones have a lot to do with it I think. Biology programs women to focus on the baby and everything and everyone else has to drop a place while mum cares for the newborn. Partners can find this hard to deal with! That coupled with no sleep and no/not much sex can take it's toll. But it's only temporary. I guess you're the only person who can tell whether it's just a rough patch while you go through the newborn phase, or whether you were unhappy before the baby arrived.

The first few months I felt like I hated him and we were ratty with each other all the time. It did get better as DS started doing longer stints at night... still not a great sleeper at 20 months but we do have affection for each other and I think we both recognise that this part of our lives is a bit of a fog... his understanding got a lot better a few months ago when DS started getting really clingy with him and wouldn’t leave him alone when he got in from work... he suddenly gets what it’s like to be tired and touched out.

I definitely felt different for a while. Very reliant on him but also more distant for a bit. I think the relationship with DS just took all of my emotional energy for a good year. We didn’t fight or anything, he was amazingly supportive throughout some awful mental health problems - it just felt more like we were colleagues or something.

The love I felt for ds over shadowed everything else. I was sleep deprived and I felt he just got in the way and didn’t do anything useful or supportive. The birth had an effect on both our mental health but neither of us did anything about it and we stopped having sex for various reasons. Things started improving at about a year and are still improving at 18 months. We’re not quite there yet.

It seems to be normal for a mother to be resentful and irritated with the father of her child and not be able to stand being touched by him for months after childbirth. No matter how good a husband and father he may be.

Definitely happened with me, I was completely ready to leave despite loving him completely and utterly up until the birth.
He suddenly couldn’t do anything right in my eyes.
Thankfully it sorted itself out, think it was definitely a hormonal thing.

Agree with all of the above, honestly considered leaving him and he just used to gross me out for no reason and annoy me from nothing. I feel so mean saying this but it’s like I couldn’t bear him!! 15 months PP now and things are back to normal

I haven't had this, we're still us and very much in love still. It did take us a few month to get used to being us with an additional member of the family though! We've found anew normal.