Considering leaving unsupportive boyfriend

[jenny8916652]

I'm almost 2 months pregnant and thinking of leaving my unsupportive boyfriend.

We have been together on and off for 4 years and never had the best relationship I was planning to leave him just before I found out I was pregnant!

He is completely unsupportive, shows no interested in the fact that I'm pregnant tell's me I'm tired because I'm just being lazy and sleep the wrong hours but not because I'm actually pregnant and growing a human!

I had my first appointment with the midwife today and he didn't even ask me how it went and when I mentioned it he said "Sorry I've been stressed today just didn't remember"! I had a miscarriage 2 years ago and he was completely unsupportive then so I don't know why I expected any different from him.

This is my first baby and I want to feel excited and happy but I'm miserable around him! He's been working away recently and the other day I didn't hear from him until early evening and I felt so happy and calm that day (I almost hoped he had decided to run away and I would never hear from him again) then felt the same stress and resentment as soon as he called.

It's really starting to get me down and I'm starting to get depressed not wanting to get out of bed in the morning. I don't know if it's just hormones making me hate him but I feel like I would be happier being a single parent, the thought brings me peace.

I would never stop him seeing his child but I would have a very hard time trusting him alone with a baby as he doesn't even like kids and I'm not sure he would make a good dad so that right now is my biggest worry.

I have family and friends close by so I will be fine I know that for sure I just don't know how I'll be able to coparent with such an immature, selfie twat and have to deal with him for the next 18 years!

Well if you think it will be awful co parenting and not living with him, how do you think coping with him and a baby in the same house will be better?

You sound like you have made up your mind and as someone who should have left when pregnant but had the same doubts(but for worse reasons), I would say end it while you can be on good terms so that you can enjoy the pregnancy and early years.

If he can't even be bothered to remember to ask how the appointment went,he doesn't sound very engaged. Better for a baby to be brought into the world with one focussed parent than two, where you will constantly be battling his indifference until you leave.

Sit down with him and talk it through quietly. You're pregnant, he's not interested. He's unsupportive and you feel it would be a mistake to carry on, as it wouldn't be fair on either of you.

Congratulations on your pregnancy OP
So when you hear from him and/or he's around you feel stressed, anxious and resentful. When he's not contacting you and when he's not around you feel calm and happy and the thought of being a single parent brings you peace.
Why are you staying in a relationship with this person? What positive things does he bring to the relationship? It sounds like you would be far happier and better off without the stress of this relationship in your life. Even if you stayed with him it sounds like effectively you'll be going through this alone and without his support.
It's not your hormones making you hate him, it's the fact that he's an unsupportive wanker who's treating you like shit. This should be a joyous time in your life and he's bringing you nothing but stress.

Thank you all for your replies. I know what I have to do because it’s more hurtful being with someone who is so emotionally unavailable than being alone (I feel more alone with him). I would never regret being pregnant but I already regret the dad I’ve chosen for my child :(

You can do it on your own OP - end the relationship. Your family and friends will help you. You’ll feel liberated to be free of him and can then concentrate on yourself and baby congratulations

Get rid and leave. I know it's hard but will be even harder if you stay and have a child, not fair to the child.

You'll get over, I promise.

I agree with @Singlenotsingle
OP, the last thing you need especially at this stage of your pregnancy is stress. You need a stress free and an intense free environment. Have that chat with him and this time you need to mean it, not running back to unhappiness when he comes begging.
Congratulations on your pregnancy, take things easy and all will go well without the added stress ⚘