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Moving in with parent?

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Birchbirchbeech · 25/01/2019 15:59

I am in a position where I am likely to loose my home. I have 2 young children and am a single parent. My mum has offered that we move in with her, there is plenty of room. Growing up i was not close to her but we have become closer in recent years. This arrangement would also mean that she would be able to help look after the eldest after school which would save me paying for childcare. Because of her position it would likely be a permanent move and not just for a year or 2.

However..she is in failing health and this arrangement would mean I would most likely be caring for her at some point. She can be very short and intolerant, and I think would struggle with young children in the house constantly. I don't want her to be like that with the dc. My dad (who I am closer to) is not talking with her since they divorced and would not want to come and visit if we lived with my mum. He lives too far away for day trips so this would mean we would see less of him.

Does anyone have any advice on whether this may be workable?

OP posts:
Italiangreyhound · 25/01/2019 16:19

I am afraid I have not got any advice.

Have you looked into any other options?

Does the children's father contribute anything?

If your father would choose to continue his true with your mum rather than see how daughter or grandchildren then he doesn't sound as close as one would hope.

He could still visit you and to to a restaurant, cafe, soft play place etc.

Is your home rented or are you buying it?

Good luck.

Italiangreyhound · 25/01/2019 16:22

Feud not true.

Drum2018 · 25/01/2019 16:26

What other options do you have? If your mothers health is failing will she realistically be able to mind your kids? Will you commit to going to see your dad instead or will he stay in a hotel in order to see you and the kids? It seems there are more negatives than positives so if you do have an alternative give that some serious thought.

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