How to heal yourself?

[Summercherries]

I’ve had a turbulent last few years. I came out of a long term relationship that although was very loving just didn’t work out after my partner let me down very badly on something important to me.

I’m still reeling from it and very sad. And then jumped into a relationship that’s lasted about 7 months but has been very volatile and just not right.

I’ve just ended it not very amicably and am feeling very down and sad.

I think I need to work on myself. I know the last relationship wasn’t a good one but I feel incredibly depressed after it.

How do you go about getting yourself on an even keel? I’d like to go back to how I was years ago. I was very joyful and happy and cheerful. To be honest I feel like I may never get back to that. So many things have taken their toll on me but I’d like to not carry this melancholy and quiet despair I have with me.

Anyone?

Take a time out. Just be with yourself for a while. Take some meditation classes, some yoga, some reading (inspirational) Eckhart Tolle "The power of Now" is a good book to indulge in. Take some long walks,
Do what you want to do for a while.

You need time, time with friends...plan something fun to look forward to...immerse yourself in positivity stuff (Impact Theory on YouTube is great)...as much self-compassion, fun and pleasure as possible.

What would you do for a girlfriend if she was heartbroken and sad? You’d listen to her, give her time to grieve, then try to help cheer her up, plan fun things with her, spend time with her. Give yourself that compassion. Counselling/therapy always helps if you need to offload stuff that’s happened and make sense of it.

If it was in your nature to be sunny and cheerful then you absolutely can regain it. This could be the best year of your life so far.

Now go and watch some good comedy and have a delicious dinner