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What would you do if you had only been seeing someone a month but you've fallen very hard and he makes you the happiest girl on earth? Would you get into a relationship or wait?

what does "being in a relationship" entail- what changes? - you just mean exclusivity? does the other person feel the same?

Wait for what? Sounds like you are already in a relationship?

I would just say be careful as it's easy to get swept away quickly but it is very much the new/honeymoon phase right now.

I would give my head a wobble.

Is he dating other people, or are you exclusive?

Think we need a definition of the difference between 'seeing' and 'getting into a relationship' please...

Sorry guys! So, seeing is going on dates and spending time together etc (we are exclusive) whereas a relationship would mean committing to being together forever, being official, telling friends and family etc, making more compromises for eachother xx

Committing to being together forever is marriage to me (although not so much as I have experienced) and not something to decide on after a month of dating!

Strange thread. A relationship is an ongoing interaction with any individual: romantic, parental, friendship. You're in a relationship with this guy.

Committing forever? After a month? It's worked for some but I'd say it's early days and there's a lot you still don't know about someone at that stage. Why do you have to "decide" now? Can't you just carry on enjoying each other's company and then either move in or get engaged further down the line?

relationship would mean committing to being together forever

No it doesn’t. Why would you think this?

As with anything you could agree to be exclusive and just go with it. Why would you agree to ‘commit’ after a month? Just enjoy each other’s company.

Do you really have to be either?

I've been 'seeing' my fella for 3 years, we're exclusive and everyone knows we're a couple but we're not living together or making any big commitments.

IMO as long as you're both happy with how things stand and know what to expect from each other, there's no need to label anything.

What does 'being official' mean BTW?

What does 'being official' mean BTW?

Maybe it’s like when you put it on Facebook?

If you're exclusive you are in a relationship already
Committing to being together forever is unnecessary IMO
I've been with my partner for 6 months now. We've said we love each other, we are 'boyfriend and girlfriend', have met a few of each other's family and friends and have discussed the fact we see a future together.
Beyond that we're just enjoying the ride 🤷🏼‍♀️

After a month he may amazing but before making things official I would get to know each other more.

A month is nothing and I'm sure you do like each other.

You sound very young OP. If you're exclusive you're in a relationship already...committing to being together forever after a month sounds terrifying. Just relax and see what happens, no need for huge declarations so soon.

A month in you’re still getting to know each other, everything should be great. It doesn’t mean you need to commit to be together forever! If one of my friends said that to me I’d be a bit like, wtf?

How old are you?

I’d recommend looking up “love bombing”. It’s sounding too intense so early on.

@Rainbow Agreed. It's a bomb.

Have you emotionally committed yourself OP?

Just an update.... we are together now and happier than ever 😂 ! Xx

Yay

Whoop whoop 💃. Wishing you all the happiness in the world OP. X

The labelling of relationships these days is so complicated.

This thread makes me feel old, and glad of it 🙂.

Congratulations OP, I hope he continues to make you feel like the happiest woman in the world.