Use of ‘x’ in messages

[Partylikeits2019]

Interested in views really of what you think as inprired by another thread.

Is it normal to ‘x’ at the end of messages to a male friend?

Would you find it odd if you never did with one friend but then it started happening?

Does it matter how many?

I struggle with ‘x’ etiquette as don’t tend to use it myself

tool - my DH did that to a male colleague once too I have also done it to a dad of a child I know (I run a sports team he is in), in all fairness I thought I was texting the mum then when I had sent it and saw the trail of previous messages I realised I had used the wrong number.

Generally I put kisses to male and female friends. I work alongside lots of young men (17/18 YOs) in various sports and am always careful not to put kisses on their messages. Often I do it without thinking to other friends and also I suppose if someone else puts an x to me I do in reply so necessarily something to worry about. Surely depends on content of the messages to whether it's an issue.

I never use x

I put x for most people apart from when on official work business and for 2 of my friends who are my dearest bestest friends but think x,s are bit naff. Know your audience

Now to me, the x is a powerful communication tool. It can infer various subliminal messages dependent on its use.

Female friends.. x or xx largely depends on whether they're an x'y person or not, no x politics here

Acquaintances.. usually not unless they use them

work or anything remotely formal no

Dates/Boyfriend.. now here's where it gets technical! The standard is an x but then it builds up you see. So if things develop it will gradually become xx.. extra x's can signify being particularly affectionate or happy, dropping an x the reverse

if i text a date/bf with no x.. then i'm pissed!

So what if it only comes at the end of goopy messages?Does it emphasise the goop?

I don't give my kisses away very easily, so rarely do x. In fact I don't think I've ever done more than one x.

I use x for everyone, male or female. Doesn't mean anything.

Doesn't mean anything. How do you know it doesn't mean anything to the other person.

I am not a kissy person IRL and am also quite reserved with my text kisses. Family and very close friends get an x.

Less-close friends get an x if I am trying to convey strong warmth - but I think about it carefully and have to grit my teeth because it doesn't come naturally to me. (Neither would a hug or kiss IRL!) So:

"Very sorry for your loss xx"
"Good luck with the big exam tomorrow! x"
"Thanks!! That was really kind of you x"

I x whatever. Depends on so many things, but I think they're fairly meaningless on the main. Sometimes, if I don't feel like talking or there's nothing that can or should be said, I'll send xxxxxxxxxxxxxx as a message instead.

Very roughly, if I would exchange a cheek-kiss or hug with them when meeting in person, I'll sign off a text with an x or 2.

x for a male with a 'take care' greeting,' (this would be to a male colleague, daughter's boyfriend, male relative-excluding dad.) x just says kind regards.

xx to females - (friends, colleagues, relatives) and I put 'lotsa love babes or hun or sweetie!' (Naff I know! )

xxx to my 2 kids and my husband, and mom and dad. No-one else gets 3! Coz that is saying I LOVE you!

All just my opinions of course! ^

I am clueless at this stuff so I just mirror what the other person does.
I spend most of my life trying to work out what to do socially and mirror "normal behaviour" , it's very tiring.

Xxx for DH
Xx for my best pals and family
X for everyone else outside of work

Rarely unless someone is ill or struggling in some way except for my DIL if I forget to put xx I immediately get a text asking if she's upset me!

Texts can be so abrupt that using 'x' is like a shorthand for saying 'I'm not being short with you it's just a text'.

I rank them too one x is just friendly, warms the tone of the message a bit. Xx or xxx is used for people that I love or are direct family.

I use it a lot for everyone except in professional settings.

If someone has told me about a problem or something sad I'll use it for male or female. The context of what I write is in no way flirty so it wouldn't be misinterpreted.

I only out an x to male family members, I usually out an ex to all woman I text if they do, if they don't I don't.

I always put x at the end of my texts if I consider someone to be a close friend of either gender.

The only time I wouldn't do it if it was to a man i only knew because I knew their girlfriend or wife iyswim. Or if it was a male acquaintance or work colleague I didnt know that well.

The only people that don't get them are my boss and other non friends/family.

I only use an ‘x’ for my parents and grandparents. Never used it with my DH