Ok so this is my first time asking anything on here and I don’t know any of the shortened down language like “DH” or “DP” but anyway here’s my problem.
I’m 22 weeks pregnant, I’m almost 22 and my boyfriend almost 21. We have been together for 2 and a half years. We have lived together for about 8 months and the pregnancy wasn’t planned.
We’re often on two different pages I’m very mature for my age and want to do things like buy a house and work a “proper” job and have savings etc. My boyfriend on the other hand is happy playing his PlayStation and spending spare money on take outs.
I don’t know if I’m 100% in love with him. I do love him but I don’t know if we suited forever. When I fell pregnant I wasnt happy. I’ve always been very maternal and love babies and look forward to having my own children but when I found out I was pregnant I cried hysterically and even now I struggle to feel truely excited or broody. I even wish I just wasn’t pregnant sometimes and then feel horribly guilty for having those thoughts. My boyfriend took the news of the pregnancy very well and he has been excited and supportive and I couldn’t fault him in that way at all.
Since I’ve been pregnant though we have had far more arguments. Biggget problem is he seems unable to hold a job down. He’s had 3 jobs now since I fell pregnant and he’s had problem or been unhappy in every one! I feel like he relies on me. We fight about the fact he can’t drive yet and again I am relied on, he has been learning to drive on and off but never sticks to it. I just get so frustrated and feel as if he is more of a child than a boyfriend to me!
He is not bad though like he wouldn’t cheat, he doesn’t degrade me, he isn’t violent, I do believe he does try.
I just don’t know what to do now because we are both unhappy and I do feel like if I wasn’t pregnant I would have left him. I don’t know if it would be better to break up now or to wait and see until after baby is born? I Don’t want to share baby or be left to do everything myself. I do have a very supportive family but I also feel like it should be us together raising the baby and if after a few months things are still rough between us we should break up then?
I just have no idea really. I don’t know if it’s just the stress of pregnancy or if it’s the fact we aren’t meant to be. Should we make the decision to split now? or wait until later - maybe things would get better I don’t know!
Also want to say we don’t argue every day some days good some days bad.
Sorry this post is so long and I hope it makes sense to everyone! Any questions or anything I’ve missed just ask. Thanks!