I want to leave him, in third trimester.

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I can't explain because I'm so embarrassed I've let things get this far before I've realised what a horrible man my partner is. I'm so angry with myself but I know I need to leave and I have somewhere safe to go and as much as I'm hysterically crying and scared whilst I type this out, I know that there is light at the end of the tunnel for me and my baby without this man.

In the meantime, has anyone else left their partner/husband during pregnancy and have any words of wisdom or positivity for me please?

I have to stay here tonight for one last night but tomorrow I have plans in place to leave, wish I could get to sleep ASAP.

I just wanted to send love and best wishes. You can do this

@whatsnewchoochoo thank you so much. X

Keep yourself safe and get out ASAP. Don’t let him know that you’re going. Don’t put him on the birth certificate.

Not myself, but I've known others that have left and been absolutely fine as single mums, no regrets at all!!

Please please consider your safety. Risks from an abuser increase when you leave, they realise that they are losing control.

I would recommend contacting women's aid for advice.

Keep posting here for support.

I think you sound incredibly brave

Yes, I left at 31 weeks. I was so scared but in truth being on my own with my new born baby was the best and most wonderful time in my life, we bonded, I did everything the way I wanted without him making me feel like shit, controlling me etc I'm so glad I left him when I did. Wishing you all the best. You've got this

I left when DD was 3 months old. It was hard but possible and was definitely the right thing for me. Do you have any family support? My mum was a huge support for me at the time (I was 19).

He left me when I was 7 months pregnant. It was ok, I got a lot of advice from this group, I coped, then I enjoyed it, then I grew and ended up marrying another wonderful man and having 2 more children. Our life is so much better than it was with him and I cannot believe how I nearly settled for his shit all those years ago.
Start making a plan now, get your financials sorted and somewhere to go

You have done brilliantly to now see that he is horrible, to have decided to leave AND to have made a plan and arrangements for somewhere safe to go. You are almost there. Keep calm and see it through. Do you have people in RL to support and protect you? What are your plans once you have left? Will you block and delete is number? Do you need a non mol order? Do have or do you need legal advice/support.

Amazing experience on this thread shows that you have a beautiful, loving, peaceful, calm, safe, exciting new life ahead of you with your baby.