Hi everyone....
I am in desperate need for advice
Me and my full sister have just found out today that our father (a serial cheat and liar) has had another baby with a different woman! And she is expecting another one on the way.
Let me start from the beginning...
My mum raised us alone, as my dad was a serial cheat, never aggressive, but a consistent liar
She left him and made herself a single parent because she would not put up with his ways....thank god! (Thank you momma!)
He is a mechanic by trade and has always had his own business however he never gave my mum a penny in child support
Just to give you a picture my dad is a black jamaican (I say this because as sorry as it is, men from certain places where the culture is very different usually have many mistresses) this is also something my dads mum told my mother when she was pregnant with me!
Fast forward, when my mum became unwell and had to be hospitalised for a year, social services rang him and he said “I have my own life to lead” in regards to raising us, so we went into foster care
He picked us up “when he felt like it” and gave money for us “when he had it” that’s the kind of man he has always been. He would take us out for an hour then drop us back home...
On one rare occasion he picked me up, he took me on one of his dates! The only woman I ever knew my dad to be with was his wife gill. I was too young to understand what was going on and I remember him saying to me “right she doesn’t know how old I am, so say your 7! I was 9. -_- so this random woman who was not his wife was talking to me like I was two years younger than I actually was for the whole time I was supposed to be spending time with my dad.
His wife gill was always so lovely to us when we saw her, she would play with us and she was softly spoken comes from a lovely family and was just an all round wonderful woman. However a couple of years later my dad picked me up again (my sister is older and realised before me what he was like and refused to come with us) I got in the car and there was a baby in the front seat. He said “oh this is your sister!” Again I was too young to realised what was going on and was very shy and quiet.
Fast forward to my 18th birthday and he showed up with a wedding ring on! He had married gill, my lovely stepmother, and not invited either of his children ( my sister and I)
I never saw my half sister again after that day I got in the car.
We have now found out he has been cheating on his wife since May 2014!
We have social media evidence of him with his latest woman holding an 18 month old and she is expecting another as we speak.
I am now 27 and a social worker, I need to know should I speak up for the first time and try to contact his wife to tell her he is yet again leading a double life? And also the woman in question who he has two very young children to, should I tell her the truth? That he has been married to his wife for 20 years?
I do not have any type of relationship with my dad as I refused to be let down and disappointed by him a long time ago, but I don’t like the feeling of knowing I know something huge that neither two women deserve
Please any advice would be appreciated