but he's driving me round the bend - perhaps I'm just tired but I don't seem to be able to do much right in DH's eyes at the moment. We've got a bit of a FF/BF "thing" going on atm - which I'm just about keeping my cool over but it's other stuff.
We have an 'agreement' that he does the ironing and I do his route planning for work. This morning I was up at 5.30 with DS3 and managed to get him down to sleep again in his carrycot at 6.30 - couldn't get back to sleep on the sofa so decided to do a little bit of route planning - and do some ironing for him - I knew that he'd be doing it today (always does it at the weekend) but I also knew that he hadn't got to bed until 3am as he was doing the "early night shift" with DS3 and as he (Ds3) woke up just as he (DH) was finishing watching a movie at about 1am and than faffed and fussed about for nearly 2hrs so I figured DH would be tired.
No - I shouldn't have done the ironing - as I hadn't finished the route planning. Told him that I wanted to do something that I could do sat down (and of course he said "route planning") explained that I had to clear the end of the table so the older DS's could have their breakfast but he wasn't having it.
THEN to add insult to injury he's driving me mad with DS3 when he's sleeping - DS3 ALWAYS falls asleep in our arms, whether he's had ebm, bf or FF - after a BF he's much harder to put down but pretty easy after a bottle of anything. Today I decided that it would be nice to just sit and hold him - didn't feel I had too much to do and was tired after being up early. DH then started insisting I put him down........so I did and he woke up - cue DH whisking him up in his arms and taking over and telling me "there was plenty of tidying to do if I wanted something to do when DS3 is asleep rather than the ironing" (this was about 6hrs after our initial conversation about it).
Now, this is the thing, during teh day when DS3 falls asleep on DH he almost always (I'd say 95% of the time) sits there and lets him sleep in his arms - can be up to 3hrs.......when I want to sit and hold him he either whisks him out of my arms (and DS3 continues to sleep in his arms) or tells me to put him down in the carrycot so I can "get lunch" "have a drink" (non-alcoholic I must add ), "have a break" (most common one) - but I feel it's like he's expecting me to use everyspare minute I have when DS3 is sleeping to stay on top of the housework while he just uses the opportunitys (of DS3 sleeping) to sit down.
I should add that DH DOES do his fair share of the housework so it's not like he's expecting me to do everything - just to do it everytime DS3 is sleeping.