I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 months and it’s been turbulent. I think he can be selfish and quite thoughtless at times, refusing to do things that inconvenience him. I’ve spoken to him about this several times and we’ve broken up about it but always got back together. Last week he said he wanted to be a better man but internally I doubted that was true. However I think I am done now.
The final straw was this week. I have unexpectedly had to leave the place I’m staying with as my landlord has suddenly increased the rent with no warning. I’m the only person who can’t aggord to pay for it and my flat mates are angry that I am leaving and they will now be liable for it if they cannot Indra new person in time. They’ve made my life pretty miserable for the last ten days. My boyfriend knows all of this, knows I feel uncomfortable about staying there alone with them and that I have to now effectively pack and move in a few days.
He told me I was welcome to “hide out” at his. But I explained that I do like my room, am still paying for it for now and would like to be at home. Yesterday I asked if he would come round so I wasn’t alone. He said no, when I asked again and said I’d really like that he said maybe. In the afternoon I had some horrible messages from one of my flat mates and I told him and asked him again and he said yes he would come. When I said what time, he said around 10 after going for dinner with his friends. He then did say he would cancel that if I wanted.
But by this point I felt really let down and felt it was blatantly obvious that I was upset and that coming at 10 was not a great option and so I told him not to bother. I then called him and ended it on the phone. This was about 8 and he said he was having his pizza but would come after. He turned up at about 1030 and I was very upset. He told me not to be unreasonable and that it was my fault for not telling him to cancel his dinner when he offered. He said it wasn’t a big deal, I should move on from it and that I was just upset over moving. I also pointed out he’d taken a long time to eat his pizza and come round and he said his friend at dinner was in tears about something and he didn’t want to leave her and when I pointed out I was upset he said he’d know her for 20 Years.
Just to give context to this, I had a very turbulent childhood and was homeless periodically growing up and having to move like this from somewhere where I was happy has really thrown and upset me. He knows all about this and frequently tells me not to worry and that he will look after me but I feel like it’s all words and I cannot rely on him. In addition yesterday was my dad’s birthday and he passed away ten years ago. I told him this in the morning but he’d forgotten and never brought it up again.
I’ve ended it now. But I suppose I wanted to know whether I was being unreasonable over what happened yesterday. I don’t feel I am.