Complicated...please bear with.
My mum died of cancer about 7 years ago.
About 5 months later my friend and i introduced her mum and they ended up falling for each other.
My sister snd i were a bit upset that he had moved on so soon bit ultimately happy that he was happy.
Now my friend and i have always had a bit of a competetive relationship and when our parents got together i found it odd.
Our daughters don't get on and i felt that they blamed my dd for winding her dd up as dd didnt want to play with her. Dad was neutral. That has been resolved ...sort of.
Now i feel that my dad has more to do with my friend and her mum than he does with me. What upset me most was that at a family bbq about 2 years ago my friend and her dp laid into me about how i should be greatful for the help my dad gives me.
I am grateful but i had fallen out with him at the time as he was giving me a hard time about money ( or my lack of it.)
I am grateful of course...dad does do babysitting etc. But he helps my friend, her mum and dp a lot too. Friend dosn't drive so he drives her round to help her career...and her mum.
Saod friend dosnt have to worry about mortgage as she shares one eith her mum....i felt bitter that she had a go at me for not managing money when she has a roof over her head for very minimum amounts.
I have never had the best relationship with dad but feel he has formed a bkt of a clique with his dp, her dd and dp. Dd and i are out in tbe cold a bit.
Part of me just feels ' sod em and let them get on with it.' But i cannot help feeli g tbat my friend has monopolised my dad and then gave me a hard time for wanting support from my own fucking father. The cheek of it!
Tbh i am in a better plave now and i feel it is a bit late to go dredging up the padt. I tried to bring it up with her but she dosn't get it at all.
Also friend is amazing at this and that according to my dad...but i get criticised.