Giving space after a breakup

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After "mutually" ending things 3 weeks ago due to distance/kids (more at his end) and me ignoring the no contact rule as was hurt and wanted it to work, i now finally have got through and we both are giving each othef time to think what want in life before ending it 100% how long is too long, am i setting myself up for failure ? If he really loved me surely he wld have fought 3 weeks ago. Any advice or thoughts are welcome thanks

I’m sorry to say but from personal experience a break has never ended up in getting back together, unless it’s been years later.
I would focus on yourself and doing lots of lovely kind things for you right now

Sounds as though he has already made his decision, but he's trying to let you down gently. It would be better just to be firm, but he's not strong enough.

Someone said to me the other day that there’s 8 billion people on this planet so not to give up hope just yet

Agree with PP.
This is his way of letting you down gently.
Please take back control of your own life.
One final text... This isn't working for me. It's time we end things properly. I'm moving on with my life and wish you all the best for your future.
JOB DONE!
Stop waiting for his scraps. You deserve better and you know it.

Where i am a bit of sucker is before it ended, i didnt know where i wanted to live with my son as am moving soon, wanted to meet his kids then thought nope cant hack it. As im indecisive and the distance worried me he couldnt see an easy way of making it work with him living 1.5hrs away from me so we both thought lets end it. Iv suggested all sorts (which obvs didnt help) just not sure if im holding on like you lot said to something thats not there. 😞

I made it clear it shld be a month off of no contact, he didnt wana set a date and would just be clear when he texts first to see what hasnt already changed in last 3 weeks. What makes it harder is i work with him 1-2 days a week lol