NC as identifying details. Friend in violent lesbian relationship. Friend and partner both instigate violence. Hitting, smashing things up in the home. The DC has witnessed all of the violence. I was cut out of her life for months but suddenly she's at my door again today claiming the relationship is ended, yet again. I am not going to be able to do the non committal neutral supporting thing again. There is just no way.
Followed advice from a DV specialist at work, sent friend a link to a LGBT DV helpline. I also suggested to change the locks so she can feel safe in her home (partner has left the home). She reacted badly saying I was making her feel controlled and scared.
She is in total denial that this is a serious situation. Totally blind to the impact it's having on DC. All she talks about is herself. Did partner ever love me, I want to be free to love other people.. she is now talking about exploring polyamory. It sounds like a full blown mental health crisis to be honest. All she has to say about DC is not knowing what to do with them.
There is no way she would willingly co operate with any professional. She barely tolerated me sending the fucking helpline link. I want to scream in her face to sort her shit out and take DC away from her.
Obviously I'm not going to actually do that.
What do I do? Is there anything I can do?