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DH has mental health issues, and has grown increasingly depressed and angry. This is manifesting in him verbally abusing me in front of our small DD.
It's totally unacceptable and damaging for her, and I know we need to separate. Trouble is, he doesn't want to.
We live in a two-bed flat, but he also has a one-bed flat just around the corner, which is usually rented out, but is currently empty. He is point blank refusing to stay there, even temporarily to allow things to cool down.
Things got so bad last night that this morning I packed a bag, and tonight DD and I are staying in a hotel. She thinks this is a great adventure, but it's expensive and inconvenient, so we can't stay for long.
As he won't move out, I am wondering whether I can get an occupation order, rather than continue to subject DD to his tantrums and abuse of me. If push came to shove I could possibly rent somewhere, but it would be more disruptive for DD, very expensive and I may have trouble getting somehere as I am not working (though do have a cushion of cash I could pay the rent with - though it would be a stretch).
Does anyone know what the threshold is for getting an occupation order? He hasn't hit me, but regularly verbally abuses me in front of our daughter, plus does things like turn off the wifi. Last night he tried to lock us out of the bathroom and sitting room, but the key wouldn't work. Instead he turned off the heating in those rooms. He has also taken a fuse out of the fuse box, so that the lights have gone out while DD was in the kitchen eating her dinner. Appeals from me for him to think of how confusing/distressing it would be for her fell on deaf ears, and I ended up having to snatch the fuse off him and climb up to put it back myself, after which he took it back out again. He also has pulled me back by my hair when I tried to walk away when he started shouting at me in the street.
It seems ridiculous that he has done these things, now I see them written down. But is it enough to get him out? I have no idea. Does anybody know?